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She will never be normal, will she?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 327547" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok, sweetie, I'm going to give you a kernel of hope to hang onto. I did feel like you once, when my daughter was doing drugs. I loved her, don't get me wrong, but I was sickened by the addict she had become. We made her leave.</p><p></p><p>For the record, so that you know it can be worse, pot was very tame for her. She was also snorting ADHD drugs (they cut them in pillcrushers and snort them alone or with coke), over the counter drugs, ecstacy, she tried heroine twice (yes, I thought you were an addict the first time, but it's not true) and an assortment of other drugs that I can't even name because I am not familiar with the drug culture. She also drank like a fish and smoked cigarettes (minor, I know, compared with the rest). She was this way from age twelve (yes 12) and it continued at age eighteen. Fast forward...</p><p></p><p>We made her leave and she begged her straight arrow brother to let her live in his basement. He lives in another state. He came and got her and set the rules down. She followed them. She got a job and walked to work (three car accidents and she had no license). She had to clean his house and cook. She did it. She quit drugs and drinking (telling me it wasn't easy as she was addicted to meth). She was lonely for a while, but she gradually met her boyfriend of eight years now. She is in culinary school now, working and getting straight A's and cooking up a storm for all of us on the holidays. Yum! She is into natural and organic foods. She does not party anymore and calls those who do "immature. They need to stop, like I did." She bought a house with her boyfriend, mostly because of HER good credit. She is 25 1/2. She quit drugs sometime when she was 19. She quit cigarettes too and nobody whines more than her when anybody lights up a cigarette. She insists on a smoke-free home. She told me she had wanted to quit drugs earlier, but it was easier to do it once she moved away from her "friends." Her "friends" would pressure her into doing drugs when she tried to quit.</p><p></p><p>I guess the moral of the story is that some kids turn it around later in life. My daughter had some really bad things happen to her as a child and drugs helped numb the pain, but she wanted to change and she did. She tells me the kicker was when she saw a friend with track marks up and down her arms and thought, "OMG! That will be me if I don't stop!" </p><p></p><p>Keep the Faith. Your daughter is young. Perhaps she needs a change of scenery. Do you have anyone who would take her in? Sometimes our kids listen better to others than to us (like my daughter obeyed her older brother). If not, I would not blame you if you set down rules and made her leave if she discarded them.</p><p></p><p>(((Hugs))) from one who has been in the drug-fogged trenches. I wish you a good ending...it is possible. It really, really is.</p><p></p><p>She did not get treatment. She refused treatment. She did it on her own.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 327547, member: 1550"] Ok, sweetie, I'm going to give you a kernel of hope to hang onto. I did feel like you once, when my daughter was doing drugs. I loved her, don't get me wrong, but I was sickened by the addict she had become. We made her leave. For the record, so that you know it can be worse, pot was very tame for her. She was also snorting ADHD drugs (they cut them in pillcrushers and snort them alone or with coke), over the counter drugs, ecstacy, she tried heroine twice (yes, I thought you were an addict the first time, but it's not true) and an assortment of other drugs that I can't even name because I am not familiar with the drug culture. She also drank like a fish and smoked cigarettes (minor, I know, compared with the rest). She was this way from age twelve (yes 12) and it continued at age eighteen. Fast forward... We made her leave and she begged her straight arrow brother to let her live in his basement. He lives in another state. He came and got her and set the rules down. She followed them. She got a job and walked to work (three car accidents and she had no license). She had to clean his house and cook. She did it. She quit drugs and drinking (telling me it wasn't easy as she was addicted to meth). She was lonely for a while, but she gradually met her boyfriend of eight years now. She is in culinary school now, working and getting straight A's and cooking up a storm for all of us on the holidays. Yum! She is into natural and organic foods. She does not party anymore and calls those who do "immature. They need to stop, like I did." She bought a house with her boyfriend, mostly because of HER good credit. She is 25 1/2. She quit drugs sometime when she was 19. She quit cigarettes too and nobody whines more than her when anybody lights up a cigarette. She insists on a smoke-free home. She told me she had wanted to quit drugs earlier, but it was easier to do it once she moved away from her "friends." Her "friends" would pressure her into doing drugs when she tried to quit. I guess the moral of the story is that some kids turn it around later in life. My daughter had some really bad things happen to her as a child and drugs helped numb the pain, but she wanted to change and she did. She tells me the kicker was when she saw a friend with track marks up and down her arms and thought, "OMG! That will be me if I don't stop!" Keep the Faith. Your daughter is young. Perhaps she needs a change of scenery. Do you have anyone who would take her in? Sometimes our kids listen better to others than to us (like my daughter obeyed her older brother). If not, I would not blame you if you set down rules and made her leave if she discarded them. (((Hugs))) from one who has been in the drug-fogged trenches. I wish you a good ending...it is possible. It really, really is. She did not get treatment. She refused treatment. She did it on her own. [/QUOTE]
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