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She will never be normal, will she?
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<blockquote data-quote="Robinboots" data-source="post: 327780" data-attributes="member: 4542"><p>Wow. I get it, I really do. I wonder the same thing, like what is this punishment for?? I'm being hit by the karma bus and don't even really know why.</p><p> </p><p>But see, back in the day, people had kids (duh!) and they raised them, end of story. The last few decades, we've been programmed to think that our kids accomplishments (and disappointments and issues) belong to US - that however they turn out is BECAUSE of what we, as parents, did or did not do.</p><p> </p><p>THAT IS NOT TRUE!</p><p> </p><p>A baby will walk and talk when he's darn good and ready - if it's early, we take credit, if it's later, we stress and worry. Parents, all of us, need to get over it already - kids are individuals, not extensions of us. You can do everything "right" and they can still turn out "wrong".</p><p> </p><p>We have five. Four (well, three, mostly) are perfectly fine - jury is still out on my stepson, he's kinda weird, in my humble opinion! But the other one - dear God. The one I'm here for, ya know - you have got to get to the place where you realize it's NOT your fault. And it's hard, because so many outside your immediate family assume it IS you. And that, my friend, stinks big time.</p><p> </p><p>But you aren't alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Robinboots, post: 327780, member: 4542"] Wow. I get it, I really do. I wonder the same thing, like what is this punishment for?? I'm being hit by the karma bus and don't even really know why. But see, back in the day, people had kids (duh!) and they raised them, end of story. The last few decades, we've been programmed to think that our kids accomplishments (and disappointments and issues) belong to US - that however they turn out is BECAUSE of what we, as parents, did or did not do. THAT IS NOT TRUE! A baby will walk and talk when he's darn good and ready - if it's early, we take credit, if it's later, we stress and worry. Parents, all of us, need to get over it already - kids are individuals, not extensions of us. You can do everything "right" and they can still turn out "wrong". We have five. Four (well, three, mostly) are perfectly fine - jury is still out on my stepson, he's kinda weird, in my humble opinion! But the other one - dear God. The one I'm here for, ya know - you have got to get to the place where you realize it's NOT your fault. And it's hard, because so many outside your immediate family assume it IS you. And that, my friend, stinks big time. But you aren't alone. [/QUOTE]
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