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She will never be normal, will she?
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 328738"><p>Yep, all of us have to learn as adults to set boundaries. Even us moms. Ironically, many times our difficult children have major issues setting up boundaries. So, setting up a boundary with- them, can actually be a good example for them to hopefully learn and observe. Mirror. When they are past 18, and certainly 21 or older...it is time for them to pull their own weight. Depending on the circumstances, we might offer some MINOR assistance, if it would not hurt us to do so and they are appreciative and using the assistance to help be productive and go further....but by and large we need to DETACH. Our adult "kids" need to GROW, and work toward independence. </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>Letting Go"</p><p>* To "let go" does not mean to stop caring; it means I can't do it for someone else.</p><p>* To "let go" is not to cut myself off; it's the realization I can't control another.</p><p>* To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.</p><p>* To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.</p><p>* To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another; it's to make the most of myself.</p><p>* To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about.</p><p>* To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.</p><p>* To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.</p><p>* To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.</p><p>* To "let go" is not to be protective; it's to permit another to face reality.</p><p>* To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.</p><p>* To "let go" is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.</p><p>* To "let go" is not to criticize and regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be.</p><p>* To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.</p><p>* To "let go" is to not regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.</p><p>* To "let go" is to fear less and love myself more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 328738"] Yep, all of us have to learn as adults to set boundaries. Even us moms. Ironically, many times our difficult children have major issues setting up boundaries. So, setting up a boundary with- them, can actually be a good example for them to hopefully learn and observe. Mirror. When they are past 18, and certainly 21 or older...it is time for them to pull their own weight. Depending on the circumstances, we might offer some MINOR assistance, if it would not hurt us to do so and they are appreciative and using the assistance to help be productive and go further....but by and large we need to DETACH. Our adult "kids" need to GROW, and work toward independence. Letting Go" * To "let go" does not mean to stop caring; it means I can't do it for someone else. * To "let go" is not to cut myself off; it's the realization I can't control another. * To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. * To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. * To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another; it's to make the most of myself. * To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about. * To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive. * To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. * To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies. * To "let go" is not to be protective; it's to permit another to face reality. * To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept. * To "let go" is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them. * To "let go" is not to criticize and regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be. * To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it. * To "let go" is to not regret the past, but to grow and live for the future. * To "let go" is to fear less and love myself more. [/QUOTE]
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