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<blockquote data-quote="Lothlorien" data-source="post: 330664" data-attributes="member: 1024"><p>I had this very long and thought out reply before and it got lost in cyberspace, but this is it in a nutshell....</p><p> </p><p>You can only do what you are comfortable in doing. You are not responsible for your mother's actions or her happiness. You can't change years of self-destruction in a few months and you certainly can't forget the selfishness of your mother during your life. I'm sure you have put yourself and your family out there for her recently, as much as you are willing and way more than you would have if this disease hadn't become a part of her life. You are doing way more than I would for my biomom. (For those that don't know my situation, my biomom is a horrid mess.) If your mother doesn't recognize what she's done, how can you give her happiness? You can forgive her in your mind, but if she feels nothing was wrong, how can she ask for forgiveness? Without that, will you really be able to have the kind of relationship that your aunt thinks that you should with her?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lothlorien, post: 330664, member: 1024"] I had this very long and thought out reply before and it got lost in cyberspace, but this is it in a nutshell.... You can only do what you are comfortable in doing. You are not responsible for your mother's actions or her happiness. You can't change years of self-destruction in a few months and you certainly can't forget the selfishness of your mother during your life. I'm sure you have put yourself and your family out there for her recently, as much as you are willing and way more than you would have if this disease hadn't become a part of her life. You are doing way more than I would for my biomom. (For those that don't know my situation, my biomom is a horrid mess.) If your mother doesn't recognize what she's done, how can you give her happiness? You can forgive her in your mind, but if she feels nothing was wrong, how can she ask for forgiveness? Without that, will you really be able to have the kind of relationship that your aunt thinks that you should with her? [/QUOTE]
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