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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 558570" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>PG, just as an aside, when I made a big decision to detach from my daughter, after the initial elation, the group therapist made a comment that surprised me, she said, "now the real work begins." Yikes, what had I been doing before? Well, now I see that there was 'work' to do, now that difficult child was not presenting any daily drama to deal with, I then had to deal with my feelings, the 'other shoe dropping' fears, the anxiety about loss of any control, the reentry into my own life and my own desires, the resentments and angers I didn't acknowledge because there was just too much to deal with, the recognitions of where I allowed my own boundaries to be broken.............and on it went. When our whole lives are all about difficult child and difficult child's world, once that ends, there is, at least for me, a lot of stuff that comes up to address. One by one I have and still am acknowledging all of this stuff and dealing with it and healing from it. Whew. Like the whole darn thing, it's a process and it takes time...............<em>may the force be with you!!</em> (((HUGS))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 558570, member: 13542"] PG, just as an aside, when I made a big decision to detach from my daughter, after the initial elation, the group therapist made a comment that surprised me, she said, "now the real work begins." Yikes, what had I been doing before? Well, now I see that there was 'work' to do, now that difficult child was not presenting any daily drama to deal with, I then had to deal with my feelings, the 'other shoe dropping' fears, the anxiety about loss of any control, the reentry into my own life and my own desires, the resentments and angers I didn't acknowledge because there was just too much to deal with, the recognitions of where I allowed my own boundaries to be broken.............and on it went. When our whole lives are all about difficult child and difficult child's world, once that ends, there is, at least for me, a lot of stuff that comes up to address. One by one I have and still am acknowledging all of this stuff and dealing with it and healing from it. Whew. Like the whole darn thing, it's a process and it takes time...............[I]may the force be with you!![/I] (((HUGS)))) [/QUOTE]
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