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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 595178" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I understand very well how you feel. My kid was also just a little bit different when growing up. He never actually qualified any formal diagnosis then. And he turned out to be an adult who does have a job that feeds him, he lives together with his girlfriend in the flat they rent and he does have some friends. I sincerely hope he will not have babies in next ten years or so, but I do believe that some day he likely will. We were always unsure how much to demand from him, how much to cut slack, how much to push. But he ended up an independent adult. Unfortunately he also ended up with PTSD and some very hurtful issues. Those are not our making and we probably only could had protected him from them if we had stuffed him into a box full of cotton, nailed it close and hide it onto the attic. Then again, had we done that, he wouldn't be independent adult with also some very exciting experiences. So I get how hard line that is to balance on.</p><p></p><p>But do remember that no one can learn if they are totally overwhelmed and stressed out. If there are just too much stuff coming from every direction, you can not concentrate to anything enough to learn. And soon you stop trying. So sometimes it is wiser to really think what is important and that can get slide just now and work with important. And when the new skill is learned, you can pick other thing that you had to let slide and add that to your work list. Sometimes when you do that, you get much farther in for example two years than if you try to teach too many things same time.</p><p></p><p>I of course don't know your daughter or you, but my advice would be, that try to keep in your mind the possibility that she may be overwhelmed. And if in some point it seems she is not making progress and doesn't have motivation to learn new skills, it could be worth the try to think, what you want to concentrate first and try to let something else go temporarily. To concentrate to basics first and leave the polishing for later.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 595178, member: 14557"] I understand very well how you feel. My kid was also just a little bit different when growing up. He never actually qualified any formal diagnosis then. And he turned out to be an adult who does have a job that feeds him, he lives together with his girlfriend in the flat they rent and he does have some friends. I sincerely hope he will not have babies in next ten years or so, but I do believe that some day he likely will. We were always unsure how much to demand from him, how much to cut slack, how much to push. But he ended up an independent adult. Unfortunately he also ended up with PTSD and some very hurtful issues. Those are not our making and we probably only could had protected him from them if we had stuffed him into a box full of cotton, nailed it close and hide it onto the attic. Then again, had we done that, he wouldn't be independent adult with also some very exciting experiences. So I get how hard line that is to balance on. But do remember that no one can learn if they are totally overwhelmed and stressed out. If there are just too much stuff coming from every direction, you can not concentrate to anything enough to learn. And soon you stop trying. So sometimes it is wiser to really think what is important and that can get slide just now and work with important. And when the new skill is learned, you can pick other thing that you had to let slide and add that to your work list. Sometimes when you do that, you get much farther in for example two years than if you try to teach too many things same time. I of course don't know your daughter or you, but my advice would be, that try to keep in your mind the possibility that she may be overwhelmed. And if in some point it seems she is not making progress and doesn't have motivation to learn new skills, it could be worth the try to think, what you want to concentrate first and try to let something else go temporarily. To concentrate to basics first and leave the polishing for later. [/QUOTE]
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