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<blockquote data-quote="Mamaof5" data-source="post: 353132"><p>I know I'm late in the game for this one too. I've had our version of CPS (CAS) called on me twice for spite calls. It's not a nice thing to go through. I see no reason to call either. Inappropriate game choice is just that inappropriate but not abuse or neglect. I too believe an NP would be a good start for the parents to seek help for their child. Perhaps their aggressive cold shoulder is indeed denial. CAS\CPS have a very bad reputation. I'm an advocate for changing the system because it is broken and badly so.</p><p></p><p>Mind you, you do get a good amount of awesome SW's but you never know what SW you end up with. I don't think calling on them will change a darn thing and it will push the parents away from seeking help. They will become disenfranchised and will fall into a stronger denial than what they already are in. It's not easy to admit there is something wrong with your child, it's not easy admitting it without guilt and what if's (ie: what if I had done this instead of this, did that glass of wine when I didn't know I was pregnant do anything, should I have did this). No, I would not call. I would put out my hand and try to help though but without putting the other Difficult Child kids in danger. Maybe, since you've been there with them for the child's entire life, reach out gently and ask if they need a break outside of Difficult Child hours here and there, maybe take her on one on one? I know it's a lot to ask of and maybe not something you'd want to commit to but you aren't just a Difficult Child worker to them (despite the cold shoulder they gave you and the reason they did was because they probably felt hurt by a friend more than the fact you are a Difficult Child worker, you don't go that long with a Difficult Child worker and not call them friend in some fashion). Be gentle in reaching out, it's hard to and it's very obvious that you care and love your Difficult Child kids like they are your own.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you are in such a trying time and struggling with this, it's not easy for anyone all around - especially the little girl. She may not have the verbiage or capacity to express what's really going on in her mind and emotions and it shows through in actions instead. Kids are very action oriented at that age.</p><p></p><p>Good luck, I'll keep you all in thought and prayer.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mamaof5, post: 353132"] I know I'm late in the game for this one too. I've had our version of CPS (CAS) called on me twice for spite calls. It's not a nice thing to go through. I see no reason to call either. Inappropriate game choice is just that inappropriate but not abuse or neglect. I too believe an NP would be a good start for the parents to seek help for their child. Perhaps their aggressive cold shoulder is indeed denial. CAS\CPS have a very bad reputation. I'm an advocate for changing the system because it is broken and badly so. Mind you, you do get a good amount of awesome SW's but you never know what SW you end up with. I don't think calling on them will change a darn thing and it will push the parents away from seeking help. They will become disenfranchised and will fall into a stronger denial than what they already are in. It's not easy to admit there is something wrong with your child, it's not easy admitting it without guilt and what if's (ie: what if I had done this instead of this, did that glass of wine when I didn't know I was pregnant do anything, should I have did this). No, I would not call. I would put out my hand and try to help though but without putting the other Difficult Child kids in danger. Maybe, since you've been there with them for the child's entire life, reach out gently and ask if they need a break outside of Difficult Child hours here and there, maybe take her on one on one? I know it's a lot to ask of and maybe not something you'd want to commit to but you aren't just a Difficult Child worker to them (despite the cold shoulder they gave you and the reason they did was because they probably felt hurt by a friend more than the fact you are a Difficult Child worker, you don't go that long with a Difficult Child worker and not call them friend in some fashion). Be gentle in reaching out, it's hard to and it's very obvious that you care and love your Difficult Child kids like they are your own. I'm sorry you are in such a trying time and struggling with this, it's not easy for anyone all around - especially the little girl. She may not have the verbiage or capacity to express what's really going on in her mind and emotions and it shows through in actions instead. Kids are very action oriented at that age. Good luck, I'll keep you all in thought and prayer. [/QUOTE]
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