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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 353619" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It sounds like you followed procedure all the way. It is so sad that this is happening, but even given the length of your relationship with this family, their link with their precious baby girl is stronger, and they will pull their heads in to protect her against all nasty accusations, rather than accept the possibility that she needs help in any way.</p><p></p><p>So you, my dear, became collateral damage. Of course they have thought a lot of you, but in a competition between you and their current image of their perfect child, you were the one that had to go. ANd the only way they can retain their image of their daughter as perfect, is to utterly, completely, discredit you and "what you did".</p><p></p><p>I have a friend going through something similar. I know both families involved. Interestingly, in the case I know, the father of the perpetrator is a psychologist. But his son has been slyly bullying this girl over a number of years. Not in a big way, but in ways which have been setting off warning bells in the mind of the girl's mother. Then the boy pushed over the girl in class and then stepped on her wrist. His parents insist this didn't happen, even though there were independent witnesses. And the girl now possibly has permanent nerve damage to her hand. The boy's parents have not even asked how the little girl is. The boy's mother did try to tell the little girl to stop making a fuss, it as only a sprain. But it actually has been a bad break in several bones.</p><p></p><p>Denial is a very powerful thing.</p><p></p><p>You did the right thing. Whatever you did, there were going to be problems and a lot of fallout. Just keep telling yourself, the fallout now is not because of what you did or did not do. Once this girl did what she did, you were bound to report, and her parents were almost guaranteed to react the way they did.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 353619, member: 1991"] It sounds like you followed procedure all the way. It is so sad that this is happening, but even given the length of your relationship with this family, their link with their precious baby girl is stronger, and they will pull their heads in to protect her against all nasty accusations, rather than accept the possibility that she needs help in any way. So you, my dear, became collateral damage. Of course they have thought a lot of you, but in a competition between you and their current image of their perfect child, you were the one that had to go. ANd the only way they can retain their image of their daughter as perfect, is to utterly, completely, discredit you and "what you did". I have a friend going through something similar. I know both families involved. Interestingly, in the case I know, the father of the perpetrator is a psychologist. But his son has been slyly bullying this girl over a number of years. Not in a big way, but in ways which have been setting off warning bells in the mind of the girl's mother. Then the boy pushed over the girl in class and then stepped on her wrist. His parents insist this didn't happen, even though there were independent witnesses. And the girl now possibly has permanent nerve damage to her hand. The boy's parents have not even asked how the little girl is. The boy's mother did try to tell the little girl to stop making a fuss, it as only a sprain. But it actually has been a bad break in several bones. Denial is a very powerful thing. You did the right thing. Whatever you did, there were going to be problems and a lot of fallout. Just keep telling yourself, the fallout now is not because of what you did or did not do. Once this girl did what she did, you were bound to report, and her parents were almost guaranteed to react the way they did. Marg [/QUOTE]
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