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Should we let him move back in?
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 602308" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Yikes...the name you have chosen is very close to long time CD member, Tammy. The answer to your question is NO. To understand why I say that read the last ten years of posts from her about her sons.Read alot of old posts, in fact Your son is playing you. Your heart is broken because this is not the life you ever...in a million years...expected it to be. He has made his choices but truthfully if you don't stick to your earlier decision you will just live and relive and relive the consequences of his poor choices. I wish I could say something upbeat and encouraging but so many of us have also loved our sons to death (and our daughters!) and have had many hard painful years hoping we could change their course. THEY are the only ones who are making these poor decisions. If they don't face responsibility and the consequences of their choices.....you and your husband will be wallowing in their dysfunctional environment.</p><p></p><p>It is time for you to detach. It is time for you to accept that no matter how much you love him...HE is the Captain of his ship and he is in charge of choosing the course. You and your husband are not passengers and you don't have to let him lead you. Yes, I completely know how painful this is for you. I am sending caring thoughts of support your way. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 602308, member: 35"] Yikes...the name you have chosen is very close to long time CD member, Tammy. The answer to your question is NO. To understand why I say that read the last ten years of posts from her about her sons.Read alot of old posts, in fact Your son is playing you. Your heart is broken because this is not the life you ever...in a million years...expected it to be. He has made his choices but truthfully if you don't stick to your earlier decision you will just live and relive and relive the consequences of his poor choices. I wish I could say something upbeat and encouraging but so many of us have also loved our sons to death (and our daughters!) and have had many hard painful years hoping we could change their course. THEY are the only ones who are making these poor decisions. If they don't face responsibility and the consequences of their choices.....you and your husband will be wallowing in their dysfunctional environment. It is time for you to detach. It is time for you to accept that no matter how much you love him...HE is the Captain of his ship and he is in charge of choosing the course. You and your husband are not passengers and you don't have to let him lead you. Yes, I completely know how painful this is for you. I am sending caring thoughts of support your way. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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