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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 175217" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I'd say it happens far more than anyone would like to believe. But as Linda said, alot is going to depend on the ages involved, and whether or not participation was forced or coerced.</p><p> </p><p>Yes you gave your kids a good foundation and did your best to see to it that something like this wouldn't happen. No one could ask for more. You did your best. </p><p> </p><p>But more importantly, when confronted with this problem you <strong>did not</strong> poo poo it or stick your head in the sand. This sends a powerful message to all of the kids involved. You did exactly what you should have done. And honestly, that takes guts. I commend you for that.</p><p> </p><p>Also, we as parents have to remember that we aren't the only influence in our children's lives. They are exposed to people outside of immediate family on a constant basis. School, visiting friends and neighbors houses to play, ect. We can't be with them 24/7 without smothering them and stunting their normal growth and development.</p><p> </p><p>That said.........</p><p> </p><p>My eldest brother had a best friend. This best friend lived across the street. Best friend's Dad was a father/son sort o' guy and my brother, boyfriend, and the Dad did all sorts of "guy stuff" together. Brother spent the night over there all of the time. He adored boyfriend's Dad. And my mother was relieved because as a single parent she worried brother wouldn't have a good male role modle.</p><p> </p><p>My brother was 10 when he became friends with his boyfriend.</p><p> </p><p>Eldest brother molested me throughout my entire childhood. (pre kindergarden) I know he did my older sis as well, and other brother, and strongly suspect same for other sis.</p><p> </p><p>My mom never had a clue. Until at 26 he was arrested for molesting his step daughter and neice. Then it all came out. He went to prison for 3 yrs.</p><p> </p><p>Ok. Fast forward 15 yrs from that time. I've always wondered what triggered elder brother's behavior. But never could come up with an answer.</p><p> </p><p>My mom calls me in a state of shocked horror. Elder brothers childhood boyfriend and Dad were arrested. BUT guess what for? They had molested every single child and grandchild in their family. (and I wonder how many outside of it, other than elder brother) Mom couldn't figure out why I wasn't shocked.</p><p> </p><p>Well, duh. It had just clicked. I had my answer.</p><p> </p><p>Keep your mind, eyes, and ears open. Make sure you get a good well trained therapist, perferrably with plenty of experience in this area. Make sure you have a good lawyer to call in case you need to. If you need to file a police report, make sure you take a lawyer with you to do it. </p><p> </p><p>If it's sounds like I've been there done that, I have. It's horrible, but you will get thru it. Just know you're doing all the right things.</p><p> </p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 175217, member: 84"] I'd say it happens far more than anyone would like to believe. But as Linda said, alot is going to depend on the ages involved, and whether or not participation was forced or coerced. Yes you gave your kids a good foundation and did your best to see to it that something like this wouldn't happen. No one could ask for more. You did your best. But more importantly, when confronted with this problem you [B]did not[/B] poo poo it or stick your head in the sand. This sends a powerful message to all of the kids involved. You did exactly what you should have done. And honestly, that takes guts. I commend you for that. Also, we as parents have to remember that we aren't the only influence in our children's lives. They are exposed to people outside of immediate family on a constant basis. School, visiting friends and neighbors houses to play, ect. We can't be with them 24/7 without smothering them and stunting their normal growth and development. That said......... My eldest brother had a best friend. This best friend lived across the street. Best friend's Dad was a father/son sort o' guy and my brother, boyfriend, and the Dad did all sorts of "guy stuff" together. Brother spent the night over there all of the time. He adored boyfriend's Dad. And my mother was relieved because as a single parent she worried brother wouldn't have a good male role modle. My brother was 10 when he became friends with his boyfriend. Eldest brother molested me throughout my entire childhood. (pre kindergarden) I know he did my older sis as well, and other brother, and strongly suspect same for other sis. My mom never had a clue. Until at 26 he was arrested for molesting his step daughter and neice. Then it all came out. He went to prison for 3 yrs. Ok. Fast forward 15 yrs from that time. I've always wondered what triggered elder brother's behavior. But never could come up with an answer. My mom calls me in a state of shocked horror. Elder brothers childhood boyfriend and Dad were arrested. BUT guess what for? They had molested every single child and grandchild in their family. (and I wonder how many outside of it, other than elder brother) Mom couldn't figure out why I wasn't shocked. Well, duh. It had just clicked. I had my answer. Keep your mind, eyes, and ears open. Make sure you get a good well trained therapist, perferrably with plenty of experience in this area. Make sure you have a good lawyer to call in case you need to. If you need to file a police report, make sure you take a lawyer with you to do it. If it's sounds like I've been there done that, I have. It's horrible, but you will get thru it. Just know you're doing all the right things. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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