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<blockquote data-quote="OpenWindow" data-source="post: 175300" data-attributes="member: 45"><p>If they were 8 & 9 when it happened, and it was mutual, and they knew it was wrong and stopped, you have a lot to be optimistic about. </p><p></p><p>I decided after a week or two of trying to figure out exactly what happened with my kids, to stop talking to them and wait for the therapists. It's going to be at least a month, because we are being investigated by DCFS, but I think any more talking by me may do more harm than good. I think there's a fine line between letting them know how serious it is and scarring them for life by making them feel "bad" or "dirty". Hopefully, the professionals will know how to handle it better than me.</p><p></p><p>I understand your frustration trying to supervise them constantly. I can't let my son be around any other kids unsupervised. It's tiring and so much harder to get anything done. It's even harder when I wonder how long I'll have to do this and if I'll ever be able to trust him again. </p><p></p><p>I'm not surprised by the CPS response either. We were reported by my difficult child's counselor so they were required to investigate within 24 hours. My impression is that they won't do anything more and we are just waiting to hear officially that the investigation is over. They don't have the time or resources to investigate everything, and if they see you are being proactive they put their resources elsewhere. </p><p></p><p>I don't think it's necessarily that the child was molested before or even that they were looking at porn that "caused" this. Sex is everywhere in society - I know of two kids who were caught at 5 or 6 mimicking "being in bed," which they saw on the Simpsons. It's something that probably will be investigated further by the therapists, but not something you should worry about at this point, in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>This is such a hard thing to deal with, probably the hardest things I've gone through as an adult. So many mixed emotions, so much confusion and so much unknown. Hang in there and know that you're not alone.</p><p></p><p>Linda</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OpenWindow, post: 175300, member: 45"] If they were 8 & 9 when it happened, and it was mutual, and they knew it was wrong and stopped, you have a lot to be optimistic about. I decided after a week or two of trying to figure out exactly what happened with my kids, to stop talking to them and wait for the therapists. It's going to be at least a month, because we are being investigated by DCFS, but I think any more talking by me may do more harm than good. I think there's a fine line between letting them know how serious it is and scarring them for life by making them feel "bad" or "dirty". Hopefully, the professionals will know how to handle it better than me. I understand your frustration trying to supervise them constantly. I can't let my son be around any other kids unsupervised. It's tiring and so much harder to get anything done. It's even harder when I wonder how long I'll have to do this and if I'll ever be able to trust him again. I'm not surprised by the CPS response either. We were reported by my difficult child's counselor so they were required to investigate within 24 hours. My impression is that they won't do anything more and we are just waiting to hear officially that the investigation is over. They don't have the time or resources to investigate everything, and if they see you are being proactive they put their resources elsewhere. I don't think it's necessarily that the child was molested before or even that they were looking at porn that "caused" this. Sex is everywhere in society - I know of two kids who were caught at 5 or 6 mimicking "being in bed," which they saw on the Simpsons. It's something that probably will be investigated further by the therapists, but not something you should worry about at this point, in my opinion. This is such a hard thing to deal with, probably the hardest things I've gone through as an adult. So many mixed emotions, so much confusion and so much unknown. Hang in there and know that you're not alone. Linda [/QUOTE]
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