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<blockquote data-quote="MMouse" data-source="post: 176580" data-attributes="member: 5588"><p>I want to once again say thank you for everyone listening to me and giving me your opinions. Sadly right now I'm just not sure about anything though, and assuming things or jumping to conclusions is only making it worse. My daughter has told me as well as the detective that she was not forced, while I don't believe that this is entirely true....I think that over time she began to rely on this, for whatever it was to her. </p><p> </p><p>I know that with our classes and such on this subject we came across a lot of studies where the little girls that were abused by their dads or uncles...etc would seek out other men to put in that position when they were placed in foster care. We actually saw it first hand in the oldest sibling, not with us, the oldest sibling of our adopted children in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). She would have visits with her siblings but always end up trying to sit in the foster father's lap, or telling others that she was going to run away and have sex with her dad...etc. So I know that while it may have started out as forced with my ds and daughter, she's grown to think it's normal and at some point has approached him for this as well.</p><p> </p><p>She normally plays in her room. She has all her toys up there, and her movies, so she normally plays with her sister upstairs in the summer. She sometimes will join us in the family room to watch a movie, or helps me clean the house, fix lunch, swim...etc but she was in her room because she wanted to be. Her sister was not allowed to play in the room though, that was why I felt so awkward that she was up in her room...but at the same time I was glad because her attitude is just so hard to take, as an adult, although I know that she's trying to be as normal as possible and that's probably where that comes from.</p><p> </p><p>Again, I did come here asking for support and I'm glad to have found so many helpful people that haven't been scared away by my frantic posts. I just can not go down that road of assumptions right now, assuming that he forced her and that he was once molested as well....just paints a whole different picture in my mind and brings up more feelings of hurt and not being able to protect her or him from these things. So I think for now I'll try to be as normal as possible in this horrible situation and wait until our appointment this week with the therapist. I've also called in to the counseling center for some more therapist names....hopefully we'll find one that helps us get through this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MMouse, post: 176580, member: 5588"] I want to once again say thank you for everyone listening to me and giving me your opinions. Sadly right now I'm just not sure about anything though, and assuming things or jumping to conclusions is only making it worse. My daughter has told me as well as the detective that she was not forced, while I don't believe that this is entirely true....I think that over time she began to rely on this, for whatever it was to her. I know that with our classes and such on this subject we came across a lot of studies where the little girls that were abused by their dads or uncles...etc would seek out other men to put in that position when they were placed in foster care. We actually saw it first hand in the oldest sibling, not with us, the oldest sibling of our adopted children in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). She would have visits with her siblings but always end up trying to sit in the foster father's lap, or telling others that she was going to run away and have sex with her dad...etc. So I know that while it may have started out as forced with my ds and daughter, she's grown to think it's normal and at some point has approached him for this as well. She normally plays in her room. She has all her toys up there, and her movies, so she normally plays with her sister upstairs in the summer. She sometimes will join us in the family room to watch a movie, or helps me clean the house, fix lunch, swim...etc but she was in her room because she wanted to be. Her sister was not allowed to play in the room though, that was why I felt so awkward that she was up in her room...but at the same time I was glad because her attitude is just so hard to take, as an adult, although I know that she's trying to be as normal as possible and that's probably where that comes from. Again, I did come here asking for support and I'm glad to have found so many helpful people that haven't been scared away by my frantic posts. I just can not go down that road of assumptions right now, assuming that he forced her and that he was once molested as well....just paints a whole different picture in my mind and brings up more feelings of hurt and not being able to protect her or him from these things. So I think for now I'll try to be as normal as possible in this horrible situation and wait until our appointment this week with the therapist. I've also called in to the counseling center for some more therapist names....hopefully we'll find one that helps us get through this. [/QUOTE]
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