Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Siblings acting out sexually?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 176749" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I think your approach for now is good - to just try to be as normal as possible and not pre-judge. It's not easy.</p><p></p><p>And as for the topic being too much for people here - well, people here have dealt with a very wide range of problems, you are definitely not alone.</p><p></p><p>One thing that worries me - for the future for your daughter, anyway - if she was uncertain about this but became compliant, and if your son was remorseful each time and said he'd never do it again, and he did - then she needs this therapy to also deal with teaching her that him being remorseful does not make it alright at any time. That attitude of "he said sorry, so it can all be swept away and forgotten" has the potential to make her very vulnerable to an abusive partner in the future. And men who abuse seem to have an almost sixth sense about sniffing out the women they can successfully and repeatedly abuse. Your daughter needs to learn self-respect, self-worth and self-esteem so she can recognise what is acceptable way to be treated and what is NEVER acceptable.</p><p></p><p>I'm not talking about sex here, I'm talking about abuse of power. And despite this situation of yours involving aspects of sexuality, I think the biggest problems here for her are abuse of power. Any sexual aspects are secondary.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 176749, member: 1991"] I think your approach for now is good - to just try to be as normal as possible and not pre-judge. It's not easy. And as for the topic being too much for people here - well, people here have dealt with a very wide range of problems, you are definitely not alone. One thing that worries me - for the future for your daughter, anyway - if she was uncertain about this but became compliant, and if your son was remorseful each time and said he'd never do it again, and he did - then she needs this therapy to also deal with teaching her that him being remorseful does not make it alright at any time. That attitude of "he said sorry, so it can all be swept away and forgotten" has the potential to make her very vulnerable to an abusive partner in the future. And men who abuse seem to have an almost sixth sense about sniffing out the women they can successfully and repeatedly abuse. Your daughter needs to learn self-respect, self-worth and self-esteem so she can recognise what is acceptable way to be treated and what is NEVER acceptable. I'm not talking about sex here, I'm talking about abuse of power. And despite this situation of yours involving aspects of sexuality, I think the biggest problems here for her are abuse of power. Any sexual aspects are secondary. Marg [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Siblings acting out sexually?
Top