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*Sigh* need advice regarding Copper (LONG)
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 152905" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>BBK</p><p> </p><p>I'm gonna give you my 2 cents worth.</p><p> </p><p>You were positive when you found out and during the pregnancy that Copper was J's child. While I understand your concern, I see no reason for you to doubt yourself all these years later. Might be different if she was a dead ringer for K. But she's not with either of them.</p><p> </p><p>Trust yourself.</p><p> </p><p>For what it's worth, if were me in the same situation, and even if I was certain I'd made a mistake, I'd most likely keep it to myself. </p><p> </p><p>Why? Wondering if you have a kid isn't anywhere near the same as wanting that child, even now so many years later. A child rejected by one father isn't going to welcome another one with open arms. And if he doesn't want a relationship with her either, the disaster it might cause will be greater than the first time around.</p><p> </p><p>If there are no important health issues involved, like a transplant that only best comes from a blood relative and no one else matches, I'd let it alone. There is far more potential for pain and distruction than there is for something good to come out of it.</p><p> </p><p>My father walked back into my life when I was 22. I might like him. We get along. There is no resentment, no bitterness. But I don't love him as one would love a father. We are not "close" and never will be. The opportunity for that parent/child bond to form passed us by many many years ago. It never formed and it never will.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 152905, member: 84"] BBK I'm gonna give you my 2 cents worth. You were positive when you found out and during the pregnancy that Copper was J's child. While I understand your concern, I see no reason for you to doubt yourself all these years later. Might be different if she was a dead ringer for K. But she's not with either of them. Trust yourself. For what it's worth, if were me in the same situation, and even if I was certain I'd made a mistake, I'd most likely keep it to myself. Why? Wondering if you have a kid isn't anywhere near the same as wanting that child, even now so many years later. A child rejected by one father isn't going to welcome another one with open arms. And if he doesn't want a relationship with her either, the disaster it might cause will be greater than the first time around. If there are no important health issues involved, like a transplant that only best comes from a blood relative and no one else matches, I'd let it alone. There is far more potential for pain and distruction than there is for something good to come out of it. My father walked back into my life when I was 22. I might like him. We get along. There is no resentment, no bitterness. But I don't love him as one would love a father. We are not "close" and never will be. The opportunity for that parent/child bond to form passed us by many many years ago. It never formed and it never will. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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