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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 359347" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Janet the electric skillet is because the motel won't allow microwaves or any other cooking device. She gets away with the skillet only because they haven't as yet placed it in the rules she can't have it, as I understand it. But I'm going only by what she tells me, so who knows.</p><p></p><p>Same with his family, except that the foster grandmother backs up his story with K. If he has any remaining bio family.....they're in Texas where he is originally from. But haven't had a thing to do with him since he was a child. At some point during our estrangement I know they went to Texas for a while. Maybe he was trying to reconnect.....maybe he was hoping to mooch.....but it didn't last long and they were back in MO. I'd kept tabs on K even when we weren't talking. I at least knew where she was if I knew nothing else. The computer can be a wondrous tool at times. lol </p><p></p><p>Personally my gut says there is no disability going on. She's took lazy to take Alex to be diagnosed officially, although the school has "diagnosed" him mildly mentally retarded. (actually it's most likely Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) coupled with brain damage from being dropped on his head as an infant repeatedly) If either K or her husband has anything physically wrong with them enough to warrant disability I'll win the lottery tomorrow. Both are big time sympathy seekers. My gut tells me they are using more sleazy means of making money.......but I've only got my gut and a few tidbits I've learned over the 2 yrs to go on. No solid evidence to back it up. Something I suspected strongly before I brought K to live here 10 yrs ago....but again had no solid evidence to back it up....just a lot of little things that threw up red flags.</p><p></p><p>help me, honestly I'm torn in my heart about the grand kids. Kayla and Alex I have a very strong bond with as when they were infants they lived here with us and I did 90 percent of the parenting......although I tried not to. Evan, the youngest, is a stranger to me. And as awful as it sounds, there are no real feelings there even though I try. And I never let him or K suspect. Alex and Kayla I could most likely welcome into my home and parent without batting an eye. But Evan is as wild a child I've ever come into contact with. He has zero discipline. And I don't know if this is due to his autistic symptoms or pure lazy parenting. But he's bad enough we can't speak on the phone because Evan is consistently ripping the phone out of the wall or screaming at the top of his lungs or pounding on his siblings. He is 4 and an ungodly terror. I truly pity either his Head Start teacher or his kindergarden teacher, cuz she's gonna be in for one wild ride.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /> And honestly, I know that I wouldn't have the patience to rein him in and work with him at this stage in my life. So......really, I don't know if I would consider taking in the grands. To take 2 and leave out 1 would seem wrong to me.....but Evan I just don't think I could deal with. And at this time.......husband and I couldn't really consider it much, he's not working and I'm a full time student and we're living off of unemployment ourselves.</p><p></p><p>With all the talk of the school nurse and the kids teachers..........I'm wondering if someone has turned her into CPS or has threatened to turn her in and she is wanting to run away. If she was turned in, the kids would most likely be removed if it were investigated. I know when she lived here I was always hearing how the kids were sick and she was "supposedly" constantly taking them to the pediatrician doctor. Once she disappeared, however, I ran into pediatrician doctor who told me K had stopped bringing in the kids when she began questioning why they were always sick, under weight, unbathed.......and had told her if she saw them in that condition again she'd turn her over to CPS and call me. I'm suspicious she hasn't been taking the kids to the pediatrician doctor because she'd told us Kayla had strep throat and she'd gotten medications for her, then turned around and asked easy child what over the counter medications she could give her to make her well. Same for Alex a few times. But if a CPS caseworker walked into that motel room........you've got 5 people, possibly 6 as I'm guessing her bio Mom lives there too although she denies it, living in a one room motel room. If it were temporary it wouldn't be an issue, but 3 yrs is far from temporary.</p><p></p><p>So I doubt the kids have even seen the dr.......and I'm guessing both the school nurse and the teachers have hit the nail on the head with their complaints. And also Alex's teachers, one of whom strongly complained to K, comes and picks up the kids every morning at the motel to drive them across town to school so that Alex could remain in her Special Education class as he had finally begun to make progress and she didn't want to see him slide backward again. Her being their transportation kept the kids in the same school although K moved across town to another motel. Doesn't sound like a person "out to get K" to me. Both are mandatory reporters. Ought to get interesting if that's what is going on.</p><p></p><p>But in her pity party emails, K had hoped I'd swoop in and rescue because of course I wouldn't want the grands living on the street or in the nitemarish homeless shelter. You should've heard her go on and on about the homeless shelter. Now she lived in that shelter before Kayla was born....my own Mom went to try to visit her there. It is not a bad place by any means, the worst my Mom could find to say about it was it was an older building without air conditioning. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /> So.....hmmm, forgot that part. Maybe she's getting evicted from the motel again. This will be the 3rd time in 2 yrs.</p><p></p><p>Nope. Don't believe for a minute they can't find work somewhere in that town doing something, even if it's part time and they'd have to work 2 jobs each to scrape by. I feel really bad for the grands.......but at this point there isn't much I can do.</p><p></p><p>IF CPS does remove the grands from K's care and I get the phone call I've been dreading getting for many years...........Well, I'll have to make that decision if and when the call ever comes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 359347, member: 84"] Janet the electric skillet is because the motel won't allow microwaves or any other cooking device. She gets away with the skillet only because they haven't as yet placed it in the rules she can't have it, as I understand it. But I'm going only by what she tells me, so who knows. Same with his family, except that the foster grandmother backs up his story with K. If he has any remaining bio family.....they're in Texas where he is originally from. But haven't had a thing to do with him since he was a child. At some point during our estrangement I know they went to Texas for a while. Maybe he was trying to reconnect.....maybe he was hoping to mooch.....but it didn't last long and they were back in MO. I'd kept tabs on K even when we weren't talking. I at least knew where she was if I knew nothing else. The computer can be a wondrous tool at times. lol Personally my gut says there is no disability going on. She's took lazy to take Alex to be diagnosed officially, although the school has "diagnosed" him mildly mentally retarded. (actually it's most likely Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) coupled with brain damage from being dropped on his head as an infant repeatedly) If either K or her husband has anything physically wrong with them enough to warrant disability I'll win the lottery tomorrow. Both are big time sympathy seekers. My gut tells me they are using more sleazy means of making money.......but I've only got my gut and a few tidbits I've learned over the 2 yrs to go on. No solid evidence to back it up. Something I suspected strongly before I brought K to live here 10 yrs ago....but again had no solid evidence to back it up....just a lot of little things that threw up red flags. help me, honestly I'm torn in my heart about the grand kids. Kayla and Alex I have a very strong bond with as when they were infants they lived here with us and I did 90 percent of the parenting......although I tried not to. Evan, the youngest, is a stranger to me. And as awful as it sounds, there are no real feelings there even though I try. And I never let him or K suspect. Alex and Kayla I could most likely welcome into my home and parent without batting an eye. But Evan is as wild a child I've ever come into contact with. He has zero discipline. And I don't know if this is due to his autistic symptoms or pure lazy parenting. But he's bad enough we can't speak on the phone because Evan is consistently ripping the phone out of the wall or screaming at the top of his lungs or pounding on his siblings. He is 4 and an ungodly terror. I truly pity either his Head Start teacher or his kindergarden teacher, cuz she's gonna be in for one wild ride.:knockedout: And honestly, I know that I wouldn't have the patience to rein him in and work with him at this stage in my life. So......really, I don't know if I would consider taking in the grands. To take 2 and leave out 1 would seem wrong to me.....but Evan I just don't think I could deal with. And at this time.......husband and I couldn't really consider it much, he's not working and I'm a full time student and we're living off of unemployment ourselves. With all the talk of the school nurse and the kids teachers..........I'm wondering if someone has turned her into CPS or has threatened to turn her in and she is wanting to run away. If she was turned in, the kids would most likely be removed if it were investigated. I know when she lived here I was always hearing how the kids were sick and she was "supposedly" constantly taking them to the pediatrician doctor. Once she disappeared, however, I ran into pediatrician doctor who told me K had stopped bringing in the kids when she began questioning why they were always sick, under weight, unbathed.......and had told her if she saw them in that condition again she'd turn her over to CPS and call me. I'm suspicious she hasn't been taking the kids to the pediatrician doctor because she'd told us Kayla had strep throat and she'd gotten medications for her, then turned around and asked easy child what over the counter medications she could give her to make her well. Same for Alex a few times. But if a CPS caseworker walked into that motel room........you've got 5 people, possibly 6 as I'm guessing her bio Mom lives there too although she denies it, living in a one room motel room. If it were temporary it wouldn't be an issue, but 3 yrs is far from temporary. So I doubt the kids have even seen the dr.......and I'm guessing both the school nurse and the teachers have hit the nail on the head with their complaints. And also Alex's teachers, one of whom strongly complained to K, comes and picks up the kids every morning at the motel to drive them across town to school so that Alex could remain in her Special Education class as he had finally begun to make progress and she didn't want to see him slide backward again. Her being their transportation kept the kids in the same school although K moved across town to another motel. Doesn't sound like a person "out to get K" to me. Both are mandatory reporters. Ought to get interesting if that's what is going on. But in her pity party emails, K had hoped I'd swoop in and rescue because of course I wouldn't want the grands living on the street or in the nitemarish homeless shelter. You should've heard her go on and on about the homeless shelter. Now she lived in that shelter before Kayla was born....my own Mom went to try to visit her there. It is not a bad place by any means, the worst my Mom could find to say about it was it was an older building without air conditioning. :raspberry-tounge: So.....hmmm, forgot that part. Maybe she's getting evicted from the motel again. This will be the 3rd time in 2 yrs. Nope. Don't believe for a minute they can't find work somewhere in that town doing something, even if it's part time and they'd have to work 2 jobs each to scrape by. I feel really bad for the grands.......but at this point there isn't much I can do. IF CPS does remove the grands from K's care and I get the phone call I've been dreading getting for many years...........Well, I'll have to make that decision if and when the call ever comes. [/QUOTE]
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