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Since the topic came up, do you feel you were too harsh with your child as a child?
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<blockquote data-quote="bluebell" data-source="post: 623392" data-attributes="member: 16761"><p>Interesting question! Our place was also the 'hangout' and I was the taxi service. The other moms in the (brand new) neighborhood lived in glass houses and were perfect, I wasn't and never thought myself to be, but I knew I was in the 'trenches' and it's easy to be perfect when your kids are at the neighbor's right? Yes, I parented from emotion also and heard other kids say 'My mom says your mom yells too much.' and things like that. But again, they would be yelling and pulling their hair out if they had 8 kids swimming in their backyard every summer day and in your house or garage the other days. I also work but work from home most days - done by 2:30 when the kids were just getting around or off school so I don't think that had much effect either. My kids were my #1 priority and I had every confidence that I was doing it right. I'm still not sure I didn't though, I have one child who does not have the same problems as her brother. She certainly knows where her bread is buttered. My son, on the other hand, seems to have no clue and has a sense of entitlement that baffles everyone who comes into contact with him. </p><p>My husband would become very frustrated and angry with him when he was little, and I do wonder if that had an effect. But then he has always been a handful and I'm not sure any other father that cared about his child could have dealt with it any better. Too harsh? No - probably too lenient and did too much to make his life fun and social. Now it seems he can't be alone for a minute, he actually says his 'soul rots' and he 'burns' when he's at home. He still wants our permission and approval for what he does, he's never been one to 'sneak out' or lie or do things behind our back. He asks for stuff and then gets mad (or violent - in the last year) when we say no. So I take from that that he does value our opinion and that there are parental bonds there, but maybe his mental illness just holds him back from being a functional human being. But there's not much I can do until he seeks treatment...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bluebell, post: 623392, member: 16761"] Interesting question! Our place was also the 'hangout' and I was the taxi service. The other moms in the (brand new) neighborhood lived in glass houses and were perfect, I wasn't and never thought myself to be, but I knew I was in the 'trenches' and it's easy to be perfect when your kids are at the neighbor's right? Yes, I parented from emotion also and heard other kids say 'My mom says your mom yells too much.' and things like that. But again, they would be yelling and pulling their hair out if they had 8 kids swimming in their backyard every summer day and in your house or garage the other days. I also work but work from home most days - done by 2:30 when the kids were just getting around or off school so I don't think that had much effect either. My kids were my #1 priority and I had every confidence that I was doing it right. I'm still not sure I didn't though, I have one child who does not have the same problems as her brother. She certainly knows where her bread is buttered. My son, on the other hand, seems to have no clue and has a sense of entitlement that baffles everyone who comes into contact with him. My husband would become very frustrated and angry with him when he was little, and I do wonder if that had an effect. But then he has always been a handful and I'm not sure any other father that cared about his child could have dealt with it any better. Too harsh? No - probably too lenient and did too much to make his life fun and social. Now it seems he can't be alone for a minute, he actually says his 'soul rots' and he 'burns' when he's at home. He still wants our permission and approval for what he does, he's never been one to 'sneak out' or lie or do things behind our back. He asks for stuff and then gets mad (or violent - in the last year) when we say no. So I take from that that he does value our opinion and that there are parental bonds there, but maybe his mental illness just holds him back from being a functional human being. But there's not much I can do until he seeks treatment... [/QUOTE]
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