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Situation with gfg32 has gone "beserkier"
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 619601" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm glad you seem to be doing well. I'm sorry your mother doesn't get it and I can only imagine what your son is involved in.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion it is up to your mother what she does. You have told her that he doesn't respond to the bible, but she won't believe it. Actually, he sounds a bit sociopath (in my opinion) and I don't think he will respond to anyone's words. He is too old for you to teach him anything...he has discarded your good parental upbringing probably due to an inherent personality flaw that is not your fault or his just not being a nice person or both. It happens. The nicest people sometimes find their kids are not what they expected. None of this is your fault.</p><p></p><p>I always sort of smile, even though it's not funny, when a difficult child of any age tries to use emotional blackmail to get us to do what they want us to do or to make us feel guilty for not continuing to support them while they are adults. It is a tactic almost all of our adult children have used to try to break us.</p><p></p><p>It sounds as if your son may be an abusive man if three girlfriend's have put out restraining orders on him. The ugly truth, which is so hard to absorb for all of us, is that most of our adult difficult children are just plain not nice people. We raised them to be nice, but they're not. They range from mildly entitled to downright mean to dangerous. If they were not our kids, we would have nothing to do with them. Sometimes we don't, even though they are our kids because they just plain are too awful to be around.</p><p></p><p>I hope you and your husband can detach from his drama again and remember t hat you are not going to change your 80 plus year old mom. I would not try to influence her. She may learn on her own that he doesn't help. If not, there is nothing you can do to stop her. Continue to try to stay calm. None of this has anything to do with you. It is between your son and your mother. You may tell your mother you would prefer she not forward e-mails from Son to you. That you need to regroup and regain your strength. If she starts up that he is your son, tell her he is a middle aged man now and needs to take care of himself.</p><p></p><p>Have a peaceful night.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 619601, member: 1550"] I'm glad you seem to be doing well. I'm sorry your mother doesn't get it and I can only imagine what your son is involved in. in my opinion it is up to your mother what she does. You have told her that he doesn't respond to the bible, but she won't believe it. Actually, he sounds a bit sociopath (in my opinion) and I don't think he will respond to anyone's words. He is too old for you to teach him anything...he has discarded your good parental upbringing probably due to an inherent personality flaw that is not your fault or his just not being a nice person or both. It happens. The nicest people sometimes find their kids are not what they expected. None of this is your fault. I always sort of smile, even though it's not funny, when a difficult child of any age tries to use emotional blackmail to get us to do what they want us to do or to make us feel guilty for not continuing to support them while they are adults. It is a tactic almost all of our adult children have used to try to break us. It sounds as if your son may be an abusive man if three girlfriend's have put out restraining orders on him. The ugly truth, which is so hard to absorb for all of us, is that most of our adult difficult children are just plain not nice people. We raised them to be nice, but they're not. They range from mildly entitled to downright mean to dangerous. If they were not our kids, we would have nothing to do with them. Sometimes we don't, even though they are our kids because they just plain are too awful to be around. I hope you and your husband can detach from his drama again and remember t hat you are not going to change your 80 plus year old mom. I would not try to influence her. She may learn on her own that he doesn't help. If not, there is nothing you can do to stop her. Continue to try to stay calm. None of this has anything to do with you. It is between your son and your mother. You may tell your mother you would prefer she not forward e-mails from Son to you. That you need to regroup and regain your strength. If she starts up that he is your son, tell her he is a middle aged man now and needs to take care of himself. Have a peaceful night. [/QUOTE]
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