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Situation with gfg32 has gone "beserkier"
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 620054" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Strength, remember that when we really really begin to detach and our difficult children see and feel that we are serious, they push back HARD. It makes them furious. They are even more determined to break us down. Because, we have taught them so, so well that it works. If they just keep on, finally, we will break.</p><p></p><p>The book Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend talks about this---that when we begin to set boundaries with anyone, they won't like it. </p><p></p><p>Then, if we keep on being strong, in their desperation to manipulate somebody, anybody, to get what they want, they go on to the next person (your mother), and the next and the next, and then back to us, when we least expect it.</p><p></p><p>It is what they do. It is part of the cycle. For so many years, this is how they have operated, and they have to learn a new way of living, just like we do. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there---keep coming back here. Use all of the tools at your disposal, including self-care, to stay strong and become stronger. Read about Radical Acceptance.</p><p></p><p>We are pulling for you. Your story is helping me as I have to face all of this again with my difficult child coming out of jail Saturday. I am building my strength and I am getting it from people like you, right here on this site.</p><p></p><p>Peace and prayers for all of you today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 620054, member: 17542"] Strength, remember that when we really really begin to detach and our difficult children see and feel that we are serious, they push back HARD. It makes them furious. They are even more determined to break us down. Because, we have taught them so, so well that it works. If they just keep on, finally, we will break. The book Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend talks about this---that when we begin to set boundaries with anyone, they won't like it. Then, if we keep on being strong, in their desperation to manipulate somebody, anybody, to get what they want, they go on to the next person (your mother), and the next and the next, and then back to us, when we least expect it. It is what they do. It is part of the cycle. For so many years, this is how they have operated, and they have to learn a new way of living, just like we do. Hang in there---keep coming back here. Use all of the tools at your disposal, including self-care, to stay strong and become stronger. Read about Radical Acceptance. We are pulling for you. Your story is helping me as I have to face all of this again with my difficult child coming out of jail Saturday. I am building my strength and I am getting it from people like you, right here on this site. Peace and prayers for all of you today. [/QUOTE]
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