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<blockquote data-quote="Ropefree" data-source="post: 219350" data-attributes="member: 6271"><p>Thanks for all the thoughts and view points Everyone.</p><p>Actually, whatever the therapist was trying to offer this relationship is new. In terms of the process of therapy I feel that taking time and having sessions more frequently is the best for us to get anywhere.</p><p>Enmeshment is not an issue. These are basic interpersonal dynamics and the important thing is the parenting and communication to give direction and guiadance through the teenage and younge adult years.</p><p>Frankly I believe on whole many people "give up" or simply are careless with the dawning of adulthood and those teens and their futures suffer.</p><p>Adults do need encouragement and support emotionally as well as tactical.</p><p>I do not endulge in "fighting". </p><p>In fact I am under the impression that some of what may be my difficult child effort is to acquire the interactive skill. </p><p>For me I see this developemental stage as the ones to preceed it. First the ackward</p><p>initial steps into a new area...then the consequences...then the skill set that is not there and the youth doesn't "know"....the experiance is not connecting. Emotion is </p><p>stronger and in the way.</p><p>Today, again, I feel the effort to encourage self disclosure and accept where he is</p><p>and to find the oppertunities to him to master the parts involved: anticipating the </p><p>expectation, self motivation, engaging in the appropriate communication and doing the work(chores, school, homework, timelines, socializing) for learners with indivigual issues their is not a age attainment that empowers these. I know grown adults who never have launched all the balls in the adult juggle.</p><p>When I am talking with parents with older college age and older sons and daughters their are loads of help that parents continue to provied after the consent age is reached.</p><p>For me I want my family to be the line in the sand where the cycle of abuse:verbals,</p><p>all the physicals ect was broken.</p><p>So no, I have carefully stepped back from the endulgence of battling. I am courteous and patient and I hand over responcibility and until I had a reason to wonder I have not lacked trust in him. I haven't lost trust in him per se...what I felt in my "mommy-guts" is not only did I want help....I wanted the help NOW.</p><p>The first thing I did say in my session is I want this process to be paced up faster than weeks and weeks of time to turn bad behavor into habituated behavor.</p><p> </p><p>And I do care that there is a possitive outcome. In our culture that shuns and throws people away because it is more profittable to do so to corporations with all their "rights" I am not pushing another body out into the fray unprepared to the best of my common scence and personal experiance. </p><p>I also appreciate the difficulties that have been expressed. These are the things the mothers and fathering fathers need to have as inspirations. Intergating what is known rather than reinventing the wheel because we do exist buried under the burden of our everyday work loads and limits.</p><p>Thank you all for all the time and attention. Vistas of emotionally delicious dreams to each of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ropefree, post: 219350, member: 6271"] Thanks for all the thoughts and view points Everyone. Actually, whatever the therapist was trying to offer this relationship is new. In terms of the process of therapy I feel that taking time and having sessions more frequently is the best for us to get anywhere. Enmeshment is not an issue. These are basic interpersonal dynamics and the important thing is the parenting and communication to give direction and guiadance through the teenage and younge adult years. Frankly I believe on whole many people "give up" or simply are careless with the dawning of adulthood and those teens and their futures suffer. Adults do need encouragement and support emotionally as well as tactical. I do not endulge in "fighting". In fact I am under the impression that some of what may be my difficult child effort is to acquire the interactive skill. For me I see this developemental stage as the ones to preceed it. First the ackward initial steps into a new area...then the consequences...then the skill set that is not there and the youth doesn't "know"....the experiance is not connecting. Emotion is stronger and in the way. Today, again, I feel the effort to encourage self disclosure and accept where he is and to find the oppertunities to him to master the parts involved: anticipating the expectation, self motivation, engaging in the appropriate communication and doing the work(chores, school, homework, timelines, socializing) for learners with indivigual issues their is not a age attainment that empowers these. I know grown adults who never have launched all the balls in the adult juggle. When I am talking with parents with older college age and older sons and daughters their are loads of help that parents continue to provied after the consent age is reached. For me I want my family to be the line in the sand where the cycle of abuse:verbals, all the physicals ect was broken. So no, I have carefully stepped back from the endulgence of battling. I am courteous and patient and I hand over responcibility and until I had a reason to wonder I have not lacked trust in him. I haven't lost trust in him per se...what I felt in my "mommy-guts" is not only did I want help....I wanted the help NOW. The first thing I did say in my session is I want this process to be paced up faster than weeks and weeks of time to turn bad behavor into habituated behavor. And I do care that there is a possitive outcome. In our culture that shuns and throws people away because it is more profittable to do so to corporations with all their "rights" I am not pushing another body out into the fray unprepared to the best of my common scence and personal experiance. I also appreciate the difficulties that have been expressed. These are the things the mothers and fathering fathers need to have as inspirations. Intergating what is known rather than reinventing the wheel because we do exist buried under the burden of our everyday work loads and limits. Thank you all for all the time and attention. Vistas of emotionally delicious dreams to each of you. [/QUOTE]
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