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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 219395" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It's tricky. I would hope that he would, but he has the right to refuse. Again, it could come down to negotiating - "I don't think I need therapy either, but you think I do, so I am going. Please show me the same courtesy. If you don't need it, it's not going to do you any harm. But if by chance you do need it - then it's there and you['re making use of it. Play chess with the therapist if you want to, instead of talking. But at least it's showing that you're prepared to negotiate - it's a useful adult skill."</p><p></p><p>And Ropefeee, you made a good point about us often needing to do parental things long after the child is allegedly an adult. difficult children take longer to mature. So we're constantly walking a tightrope between being there for them with help when they're floundering, and letting them assert their independence so they don't feel like they're being babied.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 just got married. He's just been away for two weeks (should be on his way home now, with bride). It's the first time he's ever been away from home, away from adult support and supervision, for more than one night. And he had to do it as Man of the House! His bride has been living on her own for some months so she's not new to it. But it would have been a very interesting two weeks for them. </p><p>I have had to hand my role as carer, over to his wife. I'm not sure she is equipped for it, but I know she is very independent and won't want help. But she will need it, especially with handling the paperwork he needs.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 is 24, almost 25. Next week he sees the pediatrician for the last time (at 25 he has to change to another specialist to handle his medication prescriptions). It's just plain bizarre.</p><p></p><p>I hope some answers percolate through for you and difficult child. it does happen. It just can take a fair bit longer sometimes.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 219395, member: 1991"] It's tricky. I would hope that he would, but he has the right to refuse. Again, it could come down to negotiating - "I don't think I need therapy either, but you think I do, so I am going. Please show me the same courtesy. If you don't need it, it's not going to do you any harm. But if by chance you do need it - then it's there and you['re making use of it. Play chess with the therapist if you want to, instead of talking. But at least it's showing that you're prepared to negotiate - it's a useful adult skill." And Ropefeee, you made a good point about us often needing to do parental things long after the child is allegedly an adult. difficult children take longer to mature. So we're constantly walking a tightrope between being there for them with help when they're floundering, and letting them assert their independence so they don't feel like they're being babied. difficult child 1 just got married. He's just been away for two weeks (should be on his way home now, with bride). It's the first time he's ever been away from home, away from adult support and supervision, for more than one night. And he had to do it as Man of the House! His bride has been living on her own for some months so she's not new to it. But it would have been a very interesting two weeks for them. I have had to hand my role as carer, over to his wife. I'm not sure she is equipped for it, but I know she is very independent and won't want help. But she will need it, especially with handling the paperwork he needs. difficult child 1 is 24, almost 25. Next week he sees the pediatrician for the last time (at 25 he has to change to another specialist to handle his medication prescriptions). It's just plain bizarre. I hope some answers percolate through for you and difficult child. it does happen. It just can take a fair bit longer sometimes. Marg [/QUOTE]
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