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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 605839" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I felt that way too. I can recall thinking it was as if I were talking to a neighbor rather then my daughter. I don't know what it is, but now it seems that it may have been when the enmeshment stopped, that negative bonding that kept me enabling my daughter. After that I saw things much clearer, detachment I think had taken hold. </p><p></p><p>*I completely understand you not wanting to visit your daughter, I had that exact same response when my daughter wanted me to go to see her in jail. I ended up going and what was interesting is that I just didn't respond to the tears and promises anymore, I could look at her and listen, but those tugs at my heart, that sadness and lost hope were simply gone. Frankly, I think it's a step into a healthier response. I think it just feels so different when for so long we've been so attached to their bad choices, so stuck in their world that when we're not, it feels weird. It sounds more to me like you've freed yourself from all the drama and the fog of that has lifted, now you see the truth.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 605839, member: 13542"] I felt that way too. I can recall thinking it was as if I were talking to a neighbor rather then my daughter. I don't know what it is, but now it seems that it may have been when the enmeshment stopped, that negative bonding that kept me enabling my daughter. After that I saw things much clearer, detachment I think had taken hold. *I completely understand you not wanting to visit your daughter, I had that exact same response when my daughter wanted me to go to see her in jail. I ended up going and what was interesting is that I just didn't respond to the tears and promises anymore, I could look at her and listen, but those tugs at my heart, that sadness and lost hope were simply gone. Frankly, I think it's a step into a healthier response. I think it just feels so different when for so long we've been so attached to their bad choices, so stuck in their world that when we're not, it feels weird. It sounds more to me like you've freed yourself from all the drama and the fog of that has lifted, now you see the truth. [/QUOTE]
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