klmno, thanks for asking! I'm always happy to share how my family is doing.
We had a wonderful visit with J in Utah over winter break. The girls hadn't seen J since he left home for wilderness in June, and I worried that the reentry would be difficult, but the kids did very well together. husband and the kids skied/snowboarded for 3 days (I couldn't because I had reconstructive foot surgery in September). We all went bowling, ate a lot of meals out in restaurants, swam in the hotel pool and watched movies. We even attended a concert performed by the Mormon Tabernacle Choir in Salt Lake City, which was magnificient.
J is progressing well. He is competely off Seroquel and being weaned off Lamictal (to see if he still needs it). His mood is upbeat and even, his frustration tolerance has improved, he is more open and engaged. In December he went with a group of boys from his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) on a service trip to Mexico to bring the holidays to an orphanage. He did so well on this trip that he is being asked to go back in February as a mentor to other boys in his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) going on the trip for the first time. He even asked to take an extra online course so he could learn Spanish, something he never would have done at home. He is also playing on the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) basketball team, again something he never would have done at home. So positive things are happening.
Of course, J still has things to work on, or he wouldn't still be in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). He still struggles to open up to discuss his own issues, which continues to impede his progress therapeutically. And academics continue to be a problem. He struggles with initiating writing, working through complex work that doesn't immediately come easily to him, self-advocating, and paying attention when subjects don't interest him. The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is trying to figure out if anxiety, ADHD-like inattention, a processing problem, executive dysfunction or a little of all these issures are coming into play here.
All in all, J is flourishing in this environment, which makes us so glad that we made the decision to send him both to wilderness and then to Residential Treatment Center (RTC). It was such a painful decision, but so right for J and for our family.