Thanks for all your positive thoughts and good wishes.
An update of sorts: husband told J about the program last night. Without even listening to much about what the program entails, J said, Im not going. I cant handle being away from home. He then was up until 2 am sobbing about what a loser he is and how bad his life is. We went ahead with the phone intake appointment this morning and told the staff there that J is very resistant to leaving home. They gave us several suggestions on what to say to him. He has to buy into the program somewhat because its voluntary and he needs to sign himself in. We also have phone calls in to Js psychiatrist and our educational consultant, who we hope will give us further guidance on how to proceed.
Jannie, we convinced J's private school to allow him to remain until we have settled on a new placement, but they are telling us that after he leaves, he will not be allowed back until he's less anxious and depressed and can engage in the work there (he's doing no homework and little classwork at this point). The Wisconsin program will provide academics while he's there so we don't have to enroll him anywhere until the program makes educational recommendations.
Pepperidege, I am tired and stressed. We're stuck in limbo land right now and I just want something to happen. J needs to be somewhere because we're really not making any progress with him here at home.
T, we are allowed to visit on the weekends and can talk on the telephone every night. Our current psychiatrist has told us that a medication wash is possible, but we will not know until we get J there and the staff can observe him.
WW, about a week ago I posted a few sentences in the "Good Morning" thread. It was easy to miss.
Thanks again, all. Your good wishes are very much appreciated.