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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 593584" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>She did it to upset you. If you show her that you are upset, she wins. I made it my mission to not let my children's clothing choices be MY problem. If they leave with-o a coat, they are cold. if they leave in pjs and a robe, people look at them funny. Not. My. Problem. </p><p></p><p>My mother HATES for kids to not wear mated socks and for socks not to be mated straight out of teh dryer. I never understood this as a kid, and as an adult? Socks are soooooo not my problem. I cannot wear them due to skin issues and foot issues. My kids are picky about socks (mostly the style) and they hate wearing matching socks. Always have. Esp J and Wiz. I don't get upset about their hair either. If they want to look odd, I don't care. If they go to an event that I do care about and they wear something inappropriate? payback is a witch and I am a bigger one. Wiz is the only one to try this. He insisted on wearing old, ratty, holey clothing to an event that was a big deal to my mom. I went up to his school in the ugliest, most eye searing outfit I could put together, with my hair almost standing on end (and it was almost down to my tushie) and I made a BIG fuss over him including kissing him and leaving a bright red lip smear on his cheek. </p><p></p><p>He called me after the event and begged for a truce. His friends know me and KNEW why I looked that way. They told him to apologize because it was going to get worse. They were right. I had a lace shirt and hip waders planned next. Yes, maybe that was childish, but it was the only way to let him know that it had to stop. with wiz, it was the only way to reach him on the subject. Given I have maybe one event every five years that I care what the wear, it wasn't asking too much.</p><p></p><p>Wiz had hair of all sorts of colors in high school. He went to a trade program and the girls in the cosmetology program did hair for free to other students. He got all sorts of colors put in. Most were barely noticeable until the class learned to bleach before coloring, lol. Mostly it was just funny.</p><p></p><p>Don't let her choices dictate your mood. If she wants to look like an idiot, so what? For those who ask you why you let her dress like that, tell her it is her choice and she has nice clothes if she wants to wear them. But it isn't generally your problem as long as all the private areas are covered. </p><p></p><p>As for why you were to be punished? because she is a difficult child. It is illogical and irrational. I would let her earn the next day like yesterday with her behavior rather than doing it again after he choice to 'punish' you. Do to get. If she doesn't do whatever is requried, she doesn't get fun times. Often this is teh ONLY way to get a difficult child to do what is needed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 593584, member: 1233"] She did it to upset you. If you show her that you are upset, she wins. I made it my mission to not let my children's clothing choices be MY problem. If they leave with-o a coat, they are cold. if they leave in pjs and a robe, people look at them funny. Not. My. Problem. My mother HATES for kids to not wear mated socks and for socks not to be mated straight out of teh dryer. I never understood this as a kid, and as an adult? Socks are soooooo not my problem. I cannot wear them due to skin issues and foot issues. My kids are picky about socks (mostly the style) and they hate wearing matching socks. Always have. Esp J and Wiz. I don't get upset about their hair either. If they want to look odd, I don't care. If they go to an event that I do care about and they wear something inappropriate? payback is a witch and I am a bigger one. Wiz is the only one to try this. He insisted on wearing old, ratty, holey clothing to an event that was a big deal to my mom. I went up to his school in the ugliest, most eye searing outfit I could put together, with my hair almost standing on end (and it was almost down to my tushie) and I made a BIG fuss over him including kissing him and leaving a bright red lip smear on his cheek. He called me after the event and begged for a truce. His friends know me and KNEW why I looked that way. They told him to apologize because it was going to get worse. They were right. I had a lace shirt and hip waders planned next. Yes, maybe that was childish, but it was the only way to let him know that it had to stop. with wiz, it was the only way to reach him on the subject. Given I have maybe one event every five years that I care what the wear, it wasn't asking too much. Wiz had hair of all sorts of colors in high school. He went to a trade program and the girls in the cosmetology program did hair for free to other students. He got all sorts of colors put in. Most were barely noticeable until the class learned to bleach before coloring, lol. Mostly it was just funny. Don't let her choices dictate your mood. If she wants to look like an idiot, so what? For those who ask you why you let her dress like that, tell her it is her choice and she has nice clothes if she wants to wear them. But it isn't generally your problem as long as all the private areas are covered. As for why you were to be punished? because she is a difficult child. It is illogical and irrational. I would let her earn the next day like yesterday with her behavior rather than doing it again after he choice to 'punish' you. Do to get. If she doesn't do whatever is requried, she doesn't get fun times. Often this is teh ONLY way to get a difficult child to do what is needed. [/QUOTE]
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