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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 68477" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I agree totally. Close the bank NOW. Whether you care to admit it or not, he's basically stealing from you when you give him money for certain things and he doesn't use it for that and doesn't return the cash. Also remember that no matter how good the intentions, it is illegal to open another person's mail or even throw it out without their permission.</p><p></p><p>So, let him know it is now time for him to handle his own money 100%. You will not pay a bill and expect him to reimburse it. You will write a check for him and hope he will pay you back. You will not pay his co-pays and you will be informing all medical/dental providers that they are to collect the co-pay from him. You will not be responsible for his. At 24, it really is time for him to sink or swim.</p><p></p><p>As to his room, I'd let it go. If his clothes get mildewed, well, he'll just have to use his money to buy new clothes. His problem, not yours. If it starts to smell down there, grab a shovel and put his stuff in plastic bags to be trashed and explain that you couldn't have that odor in your home. </p><p></p><p>Of course, warm him that this how things will be from now on. And, yes, I know it is easier said than done but he has no reason to even try to learn to manage his money right now. Mommy's doing it for him. He may yell at you for cleaning his room but he knows it will get done and his stuff will be protected from mildew, etc. Do let him know that you simply cannot afford to be his personal loan officer any more and that you certainly shouldn't be his maid. He's not paying you enough to be either!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 68477, member: 3626"] I agree totally. Close the bank NOW. Whether you care to admit it or not, he's basically stealing from you when you give him money for certain things and he doesn't use it for that and doesn't return the cash. Also remember that no matter how good the intentions, it is illegal to open another person's mail or even throw it out without their permission. So, let him know it is now time for him to handle his own money 100%. You will not pay a bill and expect him to reimburse it. You will write a check for him and hope he will pay you back. You will not pay his co-pays and you will be informing all medical/dental providers that they are to collect the co-pay from him. You will not be responsible for his. At 24, it really is time for him to sink or swim. As to his room, I'd let it go. If his clothes get mildewed, well, he'll just have to use his money to buy new clothes. His problem, not yours. If it starts to smell down there, grab a shovel and put his stuff in plastic bags to be trashed and explain that you couldn't have that odor in your home. Of course, warm him that this how things will be from now on. And, yes, I know it is easier said than done but he has no reason to even try to learn to manage his money right now. Mommy's doing it for him. He may yell at you for cleaning his room but he knows it will get done and his stuff will be protected from mildew, etc. Do let him know that you simply cannot afford to be his personal loan officer any more and that you certainly shouldn't be his maid. He's not paying you enough to be either! [/QUOTE]
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