My mother in law is the ever Optimistic Annie!!! My father in law (divorced) is Mister Downer Dan...
My mother in law is the type that no matter what, Kendall can be manic and talking suicide... husband and I will be having a long slump of things... not much to feel good about. Know what I mean??
She always has some dumb story about someone else's mis-fortune... and then ends it with, "Makes you realize how good WE have it..."
husband and I always joke how we just want to say to her, "NO we have it worse, let us just feel bad for what is going on!!!"
She is one of those phoney, positives... "Always look at the bright side, at least you are alive"
Yeah, OK...
And then father in law is the opposite everything is horrible!!! LOL Anything that can go wrong to him will. He has the "Why bother it will only go wrong" attitude... Nothing ever goes right in my life.
You just want to slap him and say, "Things do not s-uck that bad!!!" Honestly... and they don't, not for him. Not perfect, but not THE worst. Mostly his attitude.
It is hard to be in the middle... the perfect mix.
We have a friend who we call "Golden Boy" he has had a blessed life, husband has known him since they were pretty young, He even just had triplets. Over 8 weeks preemie... he had such a positive attitude. They will be fine, no stress. They are. He always has the, all will work out and be fine attitude.
I wish I could be just SO positive like him at times. But that is just not me.
I am not like my mother in law or so negative like my father in law....
I don't think you are SO negative on the board Heather. I think you are getting out stuff that maybe would drag you down if you let it build up. I think you are doing well by being honest with yourself, about you feelings and attitude.
That is the only way to start... maybe if you were sitting around your house just letting it build up and stewing?
I think you have a good positive outlook that is realistic.
You have gone through and been through a LOT in the past couple years. Go easy on yourself... None of us would be here if we were "Golden Girls/Boys"