I would be LIVID at the fake company labels!!! Having to do this means it is completely ILLEGAL to do it!!! You might consider calling UPS and asking what the penalty is for shipping beer through them. Also call the local/regional ATF and/or DEA office to find out the penalties. Ask husband if it is worth having a felony record - a federal one at that - for doing this. Will his employer fire him for being arrested for a felony? Esp if it is alcohol related? Is it worth all of that to him? If yes, WHY is it so important?
He likely isn't thinking of it this way and this may open his eye. Also ask if it is OK for him to break the law this way, why is it a problem for Kanga to break the law? he cannot have it both ways, and he is lying by using the fake labels. Just because others are doing it does NOT mean it is okay. For all he knows this guy is a DEA or ATF agent setting up a sting. It is perfectly legal for them to set him up and then arrest him. What would happen to the entire family if he was arrested for this?? Would it jeopardize custody of the kids? Could it be used to say he is providing an unfit or unsafe home for them? That may be a longshot, but it is possible. Then there is the RICO problems - if they can prove your home is being used to sell an illegal substance, they could seize it. Storing it is part of the distribution chain and you don't have to get cash to prove sale. Trade is a form of payment, so accepting a shipment counts as being paid.
It probably seems like no big deal to him, an opinion fostered by his so called freinds in this group. He isn't seeing the big picture. What would he say about a friend who tried to talk one of your kids into doing something illegal? would he think the person was a true friend?
Would he stop if you told him you would pour every bottle down the sink when he wasn't home if you found out he did this? If the possible penalties won't deter him, you might consider that type of ultimatum. there is NO way to know if he is shipping to a minor or what laws he is breaking in the states he is shipping to. EVERY state is different and has different penalties.
I would want to know why it is so important to him to get these different brews that he is willing to go so far as to break the law to do it? It just seems like a huge level of importance, Know what I mean?? Maybe instead you could offer to plan a trip to include stops at several breweries while you take the kids to do something else? Or asking the liquor store to order in a specialty brew. Heck, even pay a relative or friend who is travelling to bring some back (DON"T pack it in checked luggage on a plane - they break).
I think asking him why it is important enough to actually break the law to get it, and what message that sends to your very impressionable kids, might help him see what he is doing. I am sorry this is such an issue.