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<blockquote data-quote="Scooby" data-source="post: 205314" data-attributes="member: 6155"><p>Thank you for your kind responses.</p><p> </p><p>A little about my self -should I change the thread title to intro now? <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p> </p><p>I am 37</p><p>Married five years</p><p>difficult child -17 young man </p><p>easy child -3 girl</p><p>Step -13 girl</p><p> </p><p>Prior to marraige, I raised my son alone -his father -a career criminal was never involved mainly due to being in jail -he would get out for a bit, then commit a new offense and be sent back in -every time the offenses escalated -he is not serving life for murder. I admittedly never encouraged contact or the relationship a whole lot.</p><p> </p><p>When my son hit 10 -11 -12 -he started dabbling in weed -and robitussin -he stole an ATV and was charged - I nabbed him right away and sent him to a boarding school in another state for 9 months to get him help and I thought "Nip it in the bud" mmmm no...</p><p> </p><p>HE came home- and things got worse... he stole again -computers at a party -charged -misdemeanor... youthful offense... </p><p> </p><p>Next he was arrested, in school, for posession of cocaine -a lot of it -a LOT of it -posession with intent to sell. 3 Felonies.</p><p> </p><p>All reduced to misdemeanors -and was deferred to a "treatment court" with sentencing suspended until completion of a 2 year program which includes... group, private, drug testing, accountability weekly to a judge etc... I left him in jail a few nights before I got him out... </p><p> </p><p>Since then, I just have no trust. He has lost two jobs -being accused of stealing money -he is passing his drug tests -which I know... you can beat tests all day long...</p><p> </p><p>I'm tired.</p><p>I'm fearful.</p><p>I'm hopeless.</p><p> </p><p>I love him and he is a bright kid -smart -very good looking athletic young man -football player -body builder etc... and very nice and fun and respectful to be around... </p><p> </p><p>no diagnosis other than substance abuse and depression/anxiety -with components of aspergers but indefinite. </p><p> </p><p>I have no clue.</p><p></p><p>I hired an interventionalist -we worked with- him for a bit -ran out of funds. (WAY EXPENSIVE)</p><p> </p><p>WE did family therapy, individual for him -you name it. Pediatrician doesnt see anything that presents - sees a happy well spoken sweet youngman...</p><p> </p><p>Meanwhile back at the ranch -he is good to me -and around the house -but he is constantly scheming criminal stunts -</p><p> </p><p>I'm rambling now.</p><p></p><p>I just dont know what else I can do -as you know there's always so many dynamics and no right answer.</p><p> </p><p>THanks for listening. Thanks so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scooby, post: 205314, member: 6155"] Thank you for your kind responses. A little about my self -should I change the thread title to intro now? :) I am 37 Married five years difficult child -17 young man easy child -3 girl Step -13 girl Prior to marraige, I raised my son alone -his father -a career criminal was never involved mainly due to being in jail -he would get out for a bit, then commit a new offense and be sent back in -every time the offenses escalated -he is not serving life for murder. I admittedly never encouraged contact or the relationship a whole lot. When my son hit 10 -11 -12 -he started dabbling in weed -and robitussin -he stole an ATV and was charged - I nabbed him right away and sent him to a boarding school in another state for 9 months to get him help and I thought "Nip it in the bud" mmmm no... HE came home- and things got worse... he stole again -computers at a party -charged -misdemeanor... youthful offense... Next he was arrested, in school, for posession of cocaine -a lot of it -a LOT of it -posession with intent to sell. 3 Felonies. All reduced to misdemeanors -and was deferred to a "treatment court" with sentencing suspended until completion of a 2 year program which includes... group, private, drug testing, accountability weekly to a judge etc... I left him in jail a few nights before I got him out... Since then, I just have no trust. He has lost two jobs -being accused of stealing money -he is passing his drug tests -which I know... you can beat tests all day long... I'm tired. I'm fearful. I'm hopeless. I love him and he is a bright kid -smart -very good looking athletic young man -football player -body builder etc... and very nice and fun and respectful to be around... no diagnosis other than substance abuse and depression/anxiety -with components of aspergers but indefinite. I have no clue. I hired an interventionalist -we worked with- him for a bit -ran out of funds. (WAY EXPENSIVE) WE did family therapy, individual for him -you name it. Pediatrician doesnt see anything that presents - sees a happy well spoken sweet youngman... Meanwhile back at the ranch -he is good to me -and around the house -but he is constantly scheming criminal stunts - I'm rambling now. I just dont know what else I can do -as you know there's always so many dynamics and no right answer. THanks for listening. Thanks so much. [/QUOTE]
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