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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 29120" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>Janet you do sound confused. From what you have posted in this thread and others I believe that even though the relationship was good on many planes, it didn't fulfill some core needs in both of you. A break up doesn't have to be all about the bad nor all about the good. We humans are all flawed. The key to a lasting relationship is finding someone whose flaws are something we can live with. I may be called a cynic but the less we have to change going into a relationship the better the chances for its success. At our age our habits and beliefs are pretty well planted within our psyce so entering a relationship thinking someone will change really isn't a realistic approach.</p><p>Minor adjustments are easily attained but changes in our core beliefs and needs do not come easily.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Please be gentle with yourself. Give yourself time to grieve over this loss. When the pain has subsided then take a look at the relationship from a more objective perspective. Ask youself what was good about it and what was bad? Then armed with that knowledge maybe you can find a better fit with someone else. Heal, analyse, learn and move on. It is all you can do. (((HUGS))) -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 29120, member: 2315"] Janet you do sound confused. From what you have posted in this thread and others I believe that even though the relationship was good on many planes, it didn't fulfill some core needs in both of you. A break up doesn't have to be all about the bad nor all about the good. We humans are all flawed. The key to a lasting relationship is finding someone whose flaws are something we can live with. I may be called a cynic but the less we have to change going into a relationship the better the chances for its success. At our age our habits and beliefs are pretty well planted within our psyce so entering a relationship thinking someone will change really isn't a realistic approach. Minor adjustments are easily attained but changes in our core beliefs and needs do not come easily. Please be gentle with yourself. Give yourself time to grieve over this loss. When the pain has subsided then take a look at the relationship from a more objective perspective. Ask youself what was good about it and what was bad? Then armed with that knowledge maybe you can find a better fit with someone else. Heal, analyse, learn and move on. It is all you can do. (((HUGS))) -RM [/QUOTE]
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