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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 29127" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>boyfriend is human, nobody is perfect. </p><p></p><p>The fact is right now your life is about you. Not about boyfriend. It is about you finding out who Janet is. What Janet likes and wants. What Janet will want in a husband someday or even if she wants a husband. </p><p></p><p>Your thoughts are full of questions - how, why, what next? I know. If you take this time to think only of Janet...and become a confident, strong woman again...you will be happy. Whether it is with boyfriend or not. </p><p></p><p>Frankly, most men are attracted to a strong woman. If they sense weakness they feel like it will be too much work. That is not to imply that a committed man runs at the first sign of weakness. They can be supportive, too. However, if it feels to a man that his lady is losing her self-esteem or confidence, he becomes less attracted to her. </p><p></p><p>Janet, tell me honestly - do you think you were stronger when you first began dating? </p><p></p><p>If so, you must focus on you now. Take a few days and be weepy - it is OK and it is good for you to feel the pain and wonder all these questions. But, then it must become about you. When you are conifdent again a man (maybe boyfriend, maybe not) will be attracted to that smart, confident, sophisticated lady. The one that when she gets dressed in the morning turns in the mirror and says to herself 'you look good'! </p><p></p><p>I would guess we all need the reminder now and then. Make it about 'me' for a bit! Goodness, we are worth it!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 29127, member: 391"] boyfriend is human, nobody is perfect. The fact is right now your life is about you. Not about boyfriend. It is about you finding out who Janet is. What Janet likes and wants. What Janet will want in a husband someday or even if she wants a husband. Your thoughts are full of questions - how, why, what next? I know. If you take this time to think only of Janet...and become a confident, strong woman again...you will be happy. Whether it is with boyfriend or not. Frankly, most men are attracted to a strong woman. If they sense weakness they feel like it will be too much work. That is not to imply that a committed man runs at the first sign of weakness. They can be supportive, too. However, if it feels to a man that his lady is losing her self-esteem or confidence, he becomes less attracted to her. Janet, tell me honestly - do you think you were stronger when you first began dating? If so, you must focus on you now. Take a few days and be weepy - it is OK and it is good for you to feel the pain and wonder all these questions. But, then it must become about you. When you are conifdent again a man (maybe boyfriend, maybe not) will be attracted to that smart, confident, sophisticated lady. The one that when she gets dressed in the morning turns in the mirror and says to herself 'you look good'! I would guess we all need the reminder now and then. Make it about 'me' for a bit! Goodness, we are worth it! [/QUOTE]
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