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So worried about him now -am I a bad mom?
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 528576" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Susie is so absolutely dead on. I realize putting a grown child out is scary as all get out but when doing it you are setting him free do find his own skills. In years past, most kids were leaving home at 18 to either work, join the military or head off to college. It was unheard of for adult kids to just lay around their parents homes and mooch off them unless there was something really wrong with them...something much more wrong than what we are dealing with. </p><p></p><p>When anyone becomes accustomed to treating the people that they are living with in that manner it is time for them to leave. It isnt doing them any good. You arent teaching him anything at that point. If he treats his boss in this way he will be fired without a doubt. If he treats his new landlord this way, he will be evicted in short order. Heaven help him if he treats a girlfriend likes this because he will be arrested for domestic violence. </p><p></p><p>Your only hope right now is that he sees the light now. Yes you can do small things for him like give him small sacks of bread, pb, maybe some SPAM meat, I love viena sausages so those would be good, a cartoon of those individual fruits. Maybe just enough to last him a few days. Do not give him money. Include in the bag the names of shelters and food banks. Tell him he can go down and apply for food stamps and medicaid. But dont give him help too often because he will come to rely on you for help, it should only be given when he is actually trying.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 528576, member: 1514"] Susie is so absolutely dead on. I realize putting a grown child out is scary as all get out but when doing it you are setting him free do find his own skills. In years past, most kids were leaving home at 18 to either work, join the military or head off to college. It was unheard of for adult kids to just lay around their parents homes and mooch off them unless there was something really wrong with them...something much more wrong than what we are dealing with. When anyone becomes accustomed to treating the people that they are living with in that manner it is time for them to leave. It isnt doing them any good. You arent teaching him anything at that point. If he treats his boss in this way he will be fired without a doubt. If he treats his new landlord this way, he will be evicted in short order. Heaven help him if he treats a girlfriend likes this because he will be arrested for domestic violence. Your only hope right now is that he sees the light now. Yes you can do small things for him like give him small sacks of bread, pb, maybe some SPAM meat, I love viena sausages so those would be good, a cartoon of those individual fruits. Maybe just enough to last him a few days. Do not give him money. Include in the bag the names of shelters and food banks. Tell him he can go down and apply for food stamps and medicaid. But dont give him help too often because he will come to rely on you for help, it should only be given when he is actually trying. [/QUOTE]
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