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<blockquote data-quote="Auntie" data-source="post: 265249" data-attributes="member: 375"><p>I always knew that there was something different abut my youngest. He did not respond like he was SUPPOSED to, though what he was doing all looked PERFECTLY logical!</p><p></p><p>For instance, he loved hugs but did not like to be hugged without warning. "Give a hug" became a very common phrase! And, praise went almost unnoticed: this kid wanted APPLAUSE! </p><p></p><p>He did not respond well to the usual toilet training techniques. Nope. I finally did what all the books said to NOT do! I offered him m&m's for performing. That DID work! And then he started preferring to be dry.........</p><p></p><p>As it turns out, he has aspergers syndrome. That is probably why he preffered applause to praise: it was dramatic enough so that he understood it while he was NOT undertanding "Good boy"! And, he thought it was a fun game. Poop and watch Mama clap!!!</p><p></p><p>I am not saying that YOUR child has aspergers: I am saying that there is a reason for what our kids do, even if we do not understand it yet. And, I am also saying that your child might respond VERY well to what most kids would not even notice! And he might not notice what other kids value highly!</p><p></p><p>All of our kids march to a different drummer: that is why we all ended up here. We are all trying to "hear" the rhythem that our kids are marching to!</p><p></p><p>Is there any way that you can take each child out for ice cream or whatever once a week, for a one-on-one? Encourage him to talk about what he likes, even if it is about power rangers or whatever. It builds good will that help to carry you over the hard times. And, it really was astonishing what insight my son came up with between talking about sword fighting and cartoon characters. </p><p></p><p>We started the ice cream cone and the Mcdonalds play place-on the advice of my sons counselor- as a reward for doing his work for 5 times without fussing (NOT 5 times in a row: 5 times!). And, he really did work to earn the ice crem trips: not just because of the ice cream but because the trip was a bit special.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Auntie, post: 265249, member: 375"] I always knew that there was something different abut my youngest. He did not respond like he was SUPPOSED to, though what he was doing all looked PERFECTLY logical! For instance, he loved hugs but did not like to be hugged without warning. "Give a hug" became a very common phrase! And, praise went almost unnoticed: this kid wanted APPLAUSE! He did not respond well to the usual toilet training techniques. Nope. I finally did what all the books said to NOT do! I offered him m&m's for performing. That DID work! And then he started preferring to be dry......... As it turns out, he has aspergers syndrome. That is probably why he preffered applause to praise: it was dramatic enough so that he understood it while he was NOT undertanding "Good boy"! And, he thought it was a fun game. Poop and watch Mama clap!!! I am not saying that YOUR child has aspergers: I am saying that there is a reason for what our kids do, even if we do not understand it yet. And, I am also saying that your child might respond VERY well to what most kids would not even notice! And he might not notice what other kids value highly! All of our kids march to a different drummer: that is why we all ended up here. We are all trying to "hear" the rhythem that our kids are marching to! Is there any way that you can take each child out for ice cream or whatever once a week, for a one-on-one? Encourage him to talk about what he likes, even if it is about power rangers or whatever. It builds good will that help to carry you over the hard times. And, it really was astonishing what insight my son came up with between talking about sword fighting and cartoon characters. We started the ice cream cone and the Mcdonalds play place-on the advice of my sons counselor- as a reward for doing his work for 5 times without fussing (NOT 5 times in a row: 5 times!). And, he really did work to earn the ice crem trips: not just because of the ice cream but because the trip was a bit special. [/QUOTE]
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