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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 438737"><p>I really appreciate all of the kind and supportive notes here--more than you can know, I think. As for my trying to renew contact with my estranged sister and her difficult child son, as much as I can understand your encouragement that I do this, I think that bridge is forever burned. I left there in great but unspoken (mostly) anger in May '10, ready and needful to resume my life in Chicago, and sent an email to her in early July wherein I laid out all of my concerns and misgivings about how she was handling the whole situation there, and it was very blistering in its communication of all of my grievances about the whole experience. I very much doubt that she and I will ever speak again. And really, I think I had done all of the good I could do there and was frustratedly done with their situation--I had my own children and career and life to resume, and there was no end in sight to her dysfunctional enablement, and her difficult child's ongoing exploitation and predation. It was best that I cut the cord and call it a finished chapter in my life. I wish it weren't so, but I also needed to get some "clearance" from all of that, given how very embedded I had been in it, and this was the only way that I could see do attain that. My email wasn't a rage--it was plainspoken and direct and very emphatic--but it was conclusive. But I appreciate the wishes noted here that I might somehow repair or renew that connection.</p><p></p><p>If any of you have experience of the kind I've described over time--i.e., of a family member who "stepped up" and helped out and then left in anger and frustration, please do advise. But my sense is that my situation regarding all of that was/is fairly unusual, and I managed it, warts and all, as best as I could at the time. But again, I appreciate the kind words and encouragement here about it. I wish it had ended differently, but it is what it is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 438737"] I really appreciate all of the kind and supportive notes here--more than you can know, I think. As for my trying to renew contact with my estranged sister and her difficult child son, as much as I can understand your encouragement that I do this, I think that bridge is forever burned. I left there in great but unspoken (mostly) anger in May '10, ready and needful to resume my life in Chicago, and sent an email to her in early July wherein I laid out all of my concerns and misgivings about how she was handling the whole situation there, and it was very blistering in its communication of all of my grievances about the whole experience. I very much doubt that she and I will ever speak again. And really, I think I had done all of the good I could do there and was frustratedly done with their situation--I had my own children and career and life to resume, and there was no end in sight to her dysfunctional enablement, and her difficult child's ongoing exploitation and predation. It was best that I cut the cord and call it a finished chapter in my life. I wish it weren't so, but I also needed to get some "clearance" from all of that, given how very embedded I had been in it, and this was the only way that I could see do attain that. My email wasn't a rage--it was plainspoken and direct and very emphatic--but it was conclusive. But I appreciate the wishes noted here that I might somehow repair or renew that connection. If any of you have experience of the kind I've described over time--i.e., of a family member who "stepped up" and helped out and then left in anger and frustration, please do advise. But my sense is that my situation regarding all of that was/is fairly unusual, and I managed it, warts and all, as best as I could at the time. But again, I appreciate the kind words and encouragement here about it. I wish it had ended differently, but it is what it is. [/QUOTE]
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