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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 419705" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Around here, 12-13 is the "magic age" when the police usually determine the child knows what they are doing.</p><p> </p><p>If she is hurting people? This is not acceptable. If CPS has been involved, you may have no choice but to call the police an report an unruly child, or request transport. This is when you may need those videos. Preferably fresh ones. You have two other children that are in danger.</p><p> </p><p>In the meantime, have an officer show you an<strong><em> appropriate</em></strong> restraining hold. My husband was trained in police academy, and the police we've had to call have never - not once - had a problem with this. Of course, it was clear that she was raging. I've seen her fight with a cop - it wasn't pretty. the hold he had her in was exactly like what husband did.</p><p> </p><p>If she's had some visits with him since 2005, and regular only since 2009, this could seriously be messing with her sense of security (or things could be worse... I don't want to frighten you, but sudden onset, to me, equals trauma). I know counseling isn't easy, but I highly recommend it. And since you've talked to CPS? Ask them for help. This doesn't mean you will get it, but it will be on record that you've asked.</p><p> </p><p>As for biodad and custody. What she needs is not necessarily what he is thinking about. In my case - I am the stepmom - and my kids' biomom and my husband had shared parenting, with her having the kids the majority of the time. The kids were abused, plain and simple. husband has <strong>full legal custody</strong> now, due to what happened to Onyxx and Jett's little half sister (biomom's) passing away and Onyxx being molested by BM's boyfriend (now husband). So in our case, we've always had raging issues (even when Onyxx was little, according to husband). However, my sweet little stepdaughter <em>really</em> began acting out about the same time BM started dating the creep, which was about a year after lil' sis died. Biomom has been positively <em>horrible</em> to husband - and since Onyxx figured this out, to Onyxx too. No wonder the girl has issues.</p><p> </p><p>What I'm trying to say is... Her biodad and you have issues, and I hope he is adult enough to leave them behind when dealing with his daughter. It doesn't always happen that way.</p><p> </p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 419705, member: 6705"] Around here, 12-13 is the "magic age" when the police usually determine the child knows what they are doing. If she is hurting people? This is not acceptable. If CPS has been involved, you may have no choice but to call the police an report an unruly child, or request transport. This is when you may need those videos. Preferably fresh ones. You have two other children that are in danger. In the meantime, have an officer show you an[B][I] appropriate[/I][/B] restraining hold. My husband was trained in police academy, and the police we've had to call have never - not once - had a problem with this. Of course, it was clear that she was raging. I've seen her fight with a cop - it wasn't pretty. the hold he had her in was exactly like what husband did. If she's had some visits with him since 2005, and regular only since 2009, this could seriously be messing with her sense of security (or things could be worse... I don't want to frighten you, but sudden onset, to me, equals trauma). I know counseling isn't easy, but I highly recommend it. And since you've talked to CPS? Ask them for help. This doesn't mean you will get it, but it will be on record that you've asked. As for biodad and custody. What she needs is not necessarily what he is thinking about. In my case - I am the stepmom - and my kids' biomom and my husband had shared parenting, with her having the kids the majority of the time. The kids were abused, plain and simple. husband has [B]full legal custody[/B] now, due to what happened to Onyxx and Jett's little half sister (biomom's) passing away and Onyxx being molested by BM's boyfriend (now husband). So in our case, we've always had raging issues (even when Onyxx was little, according to husband). However, my sweet little stepdaughter [I]really[/I] began acting out about the same time BM started dating the creep, which was about a year after lil' sis died. Biomom has been positively [I]horrible[/I] to husband - and since Onyxx figured this out, to Onyxx too. No wonder the girl has issues. What I'm trying to say is... Her biodad and you have issues, and I hope he is adult enough to leave them behind when dealing with his daughter. It doesn't always happen that way. :hugs: [/QUOTE]
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