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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 573648" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>Esther?!? :O) </p><p></p><p>Oh, it's so nice to be remembered! </p><p></p><p>We're doing so much better, now. Finding that piece I posted the address for helped us to feel human while making the decisions we knew were necessary. What's happening is that we're finding it hard to enjoy the lives we've gone on to create without feeling it all turn to dust in our hands when one of the kids is in crisis. It's not even just a question of money, anymore. It's a question of time. We are both getting older, and are beginning to resent the months given over to helping resolve crisis after crisis that is not of our making. Acknowledging the resentment, we see ourselves as terrible parents, heartless human beings...failures as people. Labeling these feelings has helped us understand what it is we have been feeling. I think we are on the other side of those feelings, now. Or at least, we are aware of them enough to be able to counter them to a degree.</p><p></p><p>Very strange, to realize you do not feel entitled to take joy in the life you have created.</p><p></p><p>It was so nice to see your response, Esther! I feel stronger. Thank you! And recoveringenabler, I see you are moderating the site, now. Thank you for that. Suz was the moderator, back when I posted so often. She leaped in to pick me up and set me on the right track again more times than I can count. You have taken on an incredible responsibility. When we are in such trouble with our kids, we sometimes forget to express our appreciation for the moderators and for the site. I still look back and understand that I would never have made it through without this site.</p><p></p><p>Well, not in one piece, anyway! :O)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 573648, member: 1721"] Esther?!? :O) Oh, it's so nice to be remembered! We're doing so much better, now. Finding that piece I posted the address for helped us to feel human while making the decisions we knew were necessary. What's happening is that we're finding it hard to enjoy the lives we've gone on to create without feeling it all turn to dust in our hands when one of the kids is in crisis. It's not even just a question of money, anymore. It's a question of time. We are both getting older, and are beginning to resent the months given over to helping resolve crisis after crisis that is not of our making. Acknowledging the resentment, we see ourselves as terrible parents, heartless human beings...failures as people. Labeling these feelings has helped us understand what it is we have been feeling. I think we are on the other side of those feelings, now. Or at least, we are aware of them enough to be able to counter them to a degree. Very strange, to realize you do not feel entitled to take joy in the life you have created. It was so nice to see your response, Esther! I feel stronger. Thank you! And recoveringenabler, I see you are moderating the site, now. Thank you for that. Suz was the moderator, back when I posted so often. She leaped in to pick me up and set me on the right track again more times than I can count. You have taken on an incredible responsibility. When we are in such trouble with our kids, we sometimes forget to express our appreciation for the moderators and for the site. I still look back and understand that I would never have made it through without this site. Well, not in one piece, anyway! :O) [/QUOTE]
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