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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 338702" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>First I want to address the fact that YOU want to quit. That isn't healthy at all Shari. Before you go off doing things for wee or having husband along or inviting easy child - can you even back up and see what a simple loving thing trying to do something nice for your son turns into? </p><p></p><p>You want to do something nice for wee. That should be the end of it. </p><p></p><p>In your case all of a sudden - </p><p>Your husband invites himself</p><p>THEN he invites easy child who has no idea of this plan, but gets invited not because she deserved it or because she needs it, but because someone feels sorry for her. WRONG REASONS. </p><p>THEN you have to factor in the mother in law clause and what your inlaws will think of you if you take a simple kindness for your youngest son. </p><p>Then the cat fight in the car because the kid that doesn't deserve to go can't maintain herself with a baby in the car? Lovely trip. Duct tape and a curtain come to mind. </p><p>Then if your husband DOES GO? You worry that what is supposed to be a fun time for wee is going to be follow the boring Daddy. </p><p></p><p>One nice thing = immediately turns to all THAT koi? </p><p></p><p>How about you just make some plans with wee, tick a lock - and go? I swear if I had that many things to worry about, and that many people barkin' at MY choices and tried to please ALL THEM? The chances of ME discussing my plans with anyone would be about buttkiss. HOW often do you think they all worry so much about <span style="font-size: 18px"><u><strong>PLEASING YOU?????</strong></u></span> I'd just make my plan, say goodbye about 10 minutes before I'd leave then go. What's the worst that could happen then? The same as above? Or less? More? What would you care? At least it would be a day or two with wee without all the garbage in a warm place. He would have a day to remember - a Mommy and me special day. </p><p></p><p>Later on if easy child does her work - tell her (HERE's a GOAL FOR YOU CUP CAKE) DO YOUR WORK, DO NOT LIE TO ME....and there's a trip in it for me and you ALONE...no wee, no Dad...just me and you - (here are some choices) let her pick. </p><p></p><p>This is not hard. If Dad wants to go on THAT trip? Fine. Wee stays with Gramms. This would be for HER. That way? NO one can say you're playing favorites, no crud in the car, no worrying about husband dragging wee around for HIS plans, no one saying easy child didn't get preferential treatment, and the kid has a chance to earn something NOT be handed something...for not. </p><p></p><p>AND you and husband get away....and YOU get away AGAIN. </p><p></p><p>Hugs...and suntan lotion.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 338702, member: 4964"] First I want to address the fact that YOU want to quit. That isn't healthy at all Shari. Before you go off doing things for wee or having husband along or inviting easy child - can you even back up and see what a simple loving thing trying to do something nice for your son turns into? You want to do something nice for wee. That should be the end of it. In your case all of a sudden - Your husband invites himself THEN he invites easy child who has no idea of this plan, but gets invited not because she deserved it or because she needs it, but because someone feels sorry for her. WRONG REASONS. THEN you have to factor in the mother in law clause and what your inlaws will think of you if you take a simple kindness for your youngest son. Then the cat fight in the car because the kid that doesn't deserve to go can't maintain herself with a baby in the car? Lovely trip. Duct tape and a curtain come to mind. Then if your husband DOES GO? You worry that what is supposed to be a fun time for wee is going to be follow the boring Daddy. One nice thing = immediately turns to all THAT koi? How about you just make some plans with wee, tick a lock - and go? I swear if I had that many things to worry about, and that many people barkin' at MY choices and tried to please ALL THEM? The chances of ME discussing my plans with anyone would be about buttkiss. HOW often do you think they all worry so much about [SIZE=5][U][B]PLEASING YOU?????[/B][/U][/SIZE] I'd just make my plan, say goodbye about 10 minutes before I'd leave then go. What's the worst that could happen then? The same as above? Or less? More? What would you care? At least it would be a day or two with wee without all the garbage in a warm place. He would have a day to remember - a Mommy and me special day. Later on if easy child does her work - tell her (HERE's a GOAL FOR YOU CUP CAKE) DO YOUR WORK, DO NOT LIE TO ME....and there's a trip in it for me and you ALONE...no wee, no Dad...just me and you - (here are some choices) let her pick. This is not hard. If Dad wants to go on THAT trip? Fine. Wee stays with Gramms. This would be for HER. That way? NO one can say you're playing favorites, no crud in the car, no worrying about husband dragging wee around for HIS plans, no one saying easy child didn't get preferential treatment, and the kid has a chance to earn something NOT be handed something...for not. AND you and husband get away....and YOU get away AGAIN. Hugs...and suntan lotion. [/QUOTE]
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