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Son, 19, arrested 2 nights ago--I'm just learning of pot issues
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 440166" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Welcome. I know from experience how you are feeling and I'm sorry you are there. My husband and I have raised eight teens. The five who went to college were basically easy child's and academically above average. Much to our unhappy surprise all five either drank too much alcohol and/or began smoking pot. None of them were ever arrested, thank heavens, and all five are successful adults. Two still drink too much on occasion and one still smokes pot on occasion. The four who are parents are doing a wonderful job and they, too, hope and pray their teens don't imbibe. We feel very lucky that they never crossed paths with law enforcement because that can change the whole dynamic for life.</p><p></p><p>Very sadly we know that from experience because our grandson (raised by us) did get caught as a teen. His self image got almost instantly distorted. He found acceptance with the wrong group of kids and changed his social life. He is now 24 and has paid dearly for his choices. The interesting thing is that he is polite, delightful company at home and in circumstances where he is among "nice" peple. So I still refer to him as a easy child/difficult child. </p><p></p><p>Why am I sharing all this with you? Well, your son is at a crossroads. He is making poor choices. I'm sorry. on the other hand, he is not unique in experimenting at that age. Like everyone else I agree that he has to face the consequences of his choice. I sincerely hope he will have a "wake up call" as the result. He can get back on track and his family can help him choose that path by open discussion, acknowledgement of his issues and trying to brainstorm options. Will it work? Basically he is in the driver's seat. He is intelligent and loves his family. He should be able to sort through the options. Sadly, you can not make choices for his behavior. That's the hardest part. He and he alone can decide which way he wants to go. He may be agreeable if counseling (substance abuse specialist) if offered. Chances are the Court will impose some sanctions that will not be his choice....likely a misdemeanor charge with perhaps probation for a year. Those things only the Court can impose. The key is what <strong>he </strong>chooses. A change of schools if he feels too much peer pressure. A semester off to work? Nobody has the answer but I'm hoping he does. Sending caring support your way. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 440166, member: 35"] Welcome. I know from experience how you are feeling and I'm sorry you are there. My husband and I have raised eight teens. The five who went to college were basically easy child's and academically above average. Much to our unhappy surprise all five either drank too much alcohol and/or began smoking pot. None of them were ever arrested, thank heavens, and all five are successful adults. Two still drink too much on occasion and one still smokes pot on occasion. The four who are parents are doing a wonderful job and they, too, hope and pray their teens don't imbibe. We feel very lucky that they never crossed paths with law enforcement because that can change the whole dynamic for life. Very sadly we know that from experience because our grandson (raised by us) did get caught as a teen. His self image got almost instantly distorted. He found acceptance with the wrong group of kids and changed his social life. He is now 24 and has paid dearly for his choices. The interesting thing is that he is polite, delightful company at home and in circumstances where he is among "nice" peple. So I still refer to him as a easy child/difficult child. Why am I sharing all this with you? Well, your son is at a crossroads. He is making poor choices. I'm sorry. on the other hand, he is not unique in experimenting at that age. Like everyone else I agree that he has to face the consequences of his choice. I sincerely hope he will have a "wake up call" as the result. He can get back on track and his family can help him choose that path by open discussion, acknowledgement of his issues and trying to brainstorm options. Will it work? Basically he is in the driver's seat. He is intelligent and loves his family. He should be able to sort through the options. Sadly, you can not make choices for his behavior. That's the hardest part. He and he alone can decide which way he wants to go. He may be agreeable if counseling (substance abuse specialist) if offered. Chances are the Court will impose some sanctions that will not be his choice....likely a misdemeanor charge with perhaps probation for a year. Those things only the Court can impose. The key is what [B]he [/B]chooses. A change of schools if he feels too much peer pressure. A semester off to work? Nobody has the answer but I'm hoping he does. Sending caring support your way. DDD [/QUOTE]
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