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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 697604" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi Lulu. Welcome and sorry this is so difficult.</p><p></p><p>You are right, not his house, not his rules. You deserve peace in your own home and that includes who's there and when and to be able to trust your son. It seems more than time to draw a line.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It's certainly time at his age, especially with college nearly behind him, to do that. He may hate having to work to pay rent/utilities (don't we all?) but it's apparent he wants to have the benefits of his own place-so make it happen by setting boundaries for yourself. Down the road, he may thank you for the push. </p><p>Could you start by changing your locks so he knows you mean business and setting a date for him to get his own place? Maybe that will be enough to motivate him. Setting a few boundaries (write them down) can give you some control over your space. This is all so stressful, be good to yourselves during this chaos. </p><p>Many of us, upon looking back, can't believe all we tolerated. It's hard to see until you are past it. We get so clouded and confused, we are parents who love them so much. Love him enough to allow him the independence he's demanding. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 697604, member: 20054"] Hi Lulu. Welcome and sorry this is so difficult. You are right, not his house, not his rules. You deserve peace in your own home and that includes who's there and when and to be able to trust your son. It seems more than time to draw a line. It's certainly time at his age, especially with college nearly behind him, to do that. He may hate having to work to pay rent/utilities (don't we all?) but it's apparent he wants to have the benefits of his own place-so make it happen by setting boundaries for yourself. Down the road, he may thank you for the push. Could you start by changing your locks so he knows you mean business and setting a date for him to get his own place? Maybe that will be enough to motivate him. Setting a few boundaries (write them down) can give you some control over your space. This is all so stressful, be good to yourselves during this chaos. Many of us, upon looking back, can't believe all we tolerated. It's hard to see until you are past it. We get so clouded and confused, we are parents who love them so much. Love him enough to allow him the independence he's demanding. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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