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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 437320" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I think you did a great job of handling ds fear of your temper. </p><p></p><p>We're not perfect even though we're parents, even though we do our best we're going to lose it every now and again.......more so with a difficult child in the house. </p><p></p><p>My Mom was what I call a screamer. She never asked you to do anything, it was always an order and almost always at the top of her lungs. It got so 1. we didn't like to be around her and 2. we stopped paying attention to her. Regardless of the fact she always followed through on punishments. Her screaming orders was the "norm"........sigh So it just got uglier and uglier when we stopped responding.</p><p></p><p>With mine I vowed not to be a screamer. I mostly succeeded. I did give orders, but I would also ask them to do things. I tried to appreciate what they did do too. I didn't go overboard.....if they did something out of the ordinary to be nice I gave them a pat on the back sort of thing. I had good results. </p><p></p><p>Not saying there weren't many days I wanted to rip my hair out. I just wouldn't open my mouth if I thought it would come out like what my Mom used to say. I did a lot of teeth clenching. lol And if I did lose it with them, I always took time later to explain why......and that grown ups can also get mad sometimes.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 437320, member: 84"] I think you did a great job of handling ds fear of your temper. We're not perfect even though we're parents, even though we do our best we're going to lose it every now and again.......more so with a difficult child in the house. My Mom was what I call a screamer. She never asked you to do anything, it was always an order and almost always at the top of her lungs. It got so 1. we didn't like to be around her and 2. we stopped paying attention to her. Regardless of the fact she always followed through on punishments. Her screaming orders was the "norm"........sigh So it just got uglier and uglier when we stopped responding. With mine I vowed not to be a screamer. I mostly succeeded. I did give orders, but I would also ask them to do things. I tried to appreciate what they did do too. I didn't go overboard.....if they did something out of the ordinary to be nice I gave them a pat on the back sort of thing. I had good results. Not saying there weren't many days I wanted to rip my hair out. I just wouldn't open my mouth if I thought it would come out like what my Mom used to say. I did a lot of teeth clenching. lol And if I did lose it with them, I always took time later to explain why......and that grown ups can also get mad sometimes. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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