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Son says "You are dead to me".....
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<blockquote data-quote="Photo107" data-source="post: 587537" data-attributes="member: 16135"><p>Hi folks......thank you very much for some very common sense, good and practical advice....I have, for the past 3 months, "given him his space"....I have let him know when I am going to be in town, and told him he is welcome to join myself and his brother, when going out to eat, etc....and have not pushed it beyond that.....I have written to him previously, and told him that I forgave him for what he said to me, so I can release that, and the ball, basically is in his court so to speak.....I doubt very highly that drugs are involved, since he grew up in a good home, etc....but then again, I would not rule it out either....the last time I visited his apt....there were a few beer cans strewn around from him having some friends over (even though he is not of legal drinking age...he's almost there at age of 20).....but I think back to when I was his age, and I was basically doing the same thing.....so I can't point the finger....can any of us?.......I basically have done most of what you all are saying....trusting that God will watch over him.....and asking God for the grace and patience to get thru this.......I do not pay any of his bills.....his mom and stepdad do that.....I used to help in out when he truly was in a bind.....but many times told him, you got yourself into the situation.....time for you to put your big boy pants on and figure a way out.....and he usually does when he is faced with that.....I think he's just trying to find his way.....I know that he probably didn't actually mean what he said to me....although it doesn't make the "sting" of what he said feel any better.......I have said for years, that I think that with teenage and young adult boys....that they get this little plastic thing called a license at the age of 16....they put it in their wallet....put that wallet in their back pocket of their pants....and somehow that little piece of plastic has an uncanny way of sucking their brains into their ass!.........</p><p></p><p>Thanks again for the great advice....it's good to know that I am not the only person that has, or will go thru this!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Photo107, post: 587537, member: 16135"] Hi folks......thank you very much for some very common sense, good and practical advice....I have, for the past 3 months, "given him his space"....I have let him know when I am going to be in town, and told him he is welcome to join myself and his brother, when going out to eat, etc....and have not pushed it beyond that.....I have written to him previously, and told him that I forgave him for what he said to me, so I can release that, and the ball, basically is in his court so to speak.....I doubt very highly that drugs are involved, since he grew up in a good home, etc....but then again, I would not rule it out either....the last time I visited his apt....there were a few beer cans strewn around from him having some friends over (even though he is not of legal drinking age...he's almost there at age of 20).....but I think back to when I was his age, and I was basically doing the same thing.....so I can't point the finger....can any of us?.......I basically have done most of what you all are saying....trusting that God will watch over him.....and asking God for the grace and patience to get thru this.......I do not pay any of his bills.....his mom and stepdad do that.....I used to help in out when he truly was in a bind.....but many times told him, you got yourself into the situation.....time for you to put your big boy pants on and figure a way out.....and he usually does when he is faced with that.....I think he's just trying to find his way.....I know that he probably didn't actually mean what he said to me....although it doesn't make the "sting" of what he said feel any better.......I have said for years, that I think that with teenage and young adult boys....that they get this little plastic thing called a license at the age of 16....they put it in their wallet....put that wallet in their back pocket of their pants....and somehow that little piece of plastic has an uncanny way of sucking their brains into their ass!......... Thanks again for the great advice....it's good to know that I am not the only person that has, or will go thru this! [/QUOTE]
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