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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 558986" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>He needs to get a lawyer. They are not divorced and she is preg with another man's child. They may not be ABLE to divorce until after the child is born. In some states, incl the one I live in, you are unable to divorce if the wife is pregnant, regardless of who the father is. The husband is the legal father. Period. DNA makes zero difference and the husband can actually have to pay child support on another man's child. How do I know? My bro set precedent when his girlfriend and her husband divorced. They were separated long before bro met her, but they got preg. Then they learned that her husband was going to be the LEGAL father of my niece. The divorce was the first to occur with a pregnant woman and ONLY happened because bro took ALL responsibility for the child in court. My folks paid for a good atty to help them because the first husband made it clear that he was going to be a real PITA if he was the legal father of the child. Knowing exsil the way I already knew her then, I had a BAD feeling about it all, but I kept my mouth shut. We have wondered about the DNA, but it really doesn't matter at this point - she is my niece, period. </p><p></p><p>Your son could end up in this situation. He might end up with their child being his legal responsibility. He could either let them control him via support demands, or do what exsil's first h threatened and make their life a total misery demanding all sorts of things for 'his' child. </p><p></p><p>Your son needs to get an attorney and figure out what his rights are and how/when to have paternity tested and how to either get off the hook for the new child or figure out how to use that to get what he wants for his own child. </p><p></p><p>I know your son is upsetting you and you really cannot help him with all of this, but you can pass the info along when the timing seems right to you. I do NOT want to upset you with all of this, but until my bro ended up with a married girlfriend who was preg with his child and possibly he could have ended up with another man being the legal father of his child, I didn't even know smethng that strange COULD happen. It has been several years since bro was in that situation, but there are still not many other cases where the courts allowed a divorce if the female was pregnant. Without the father of the baby going to court and taking ALL responsibilities for the child, the divorce has to wait until after the child is born. That way there are 2 adults legally responsible for the child - and the state can go after them if the child needs support.</p><p></p><p>I hope your son can stop catastrophizing and come up with a plan. Even if the house has to wait or he has to move, the child needs to come first.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 558986, member: 1233"] He needs to get a lawyer. They are not divorced and she is preg with another man's child. They may not be ABLE to divorce until after the child is born. In some states, incl the one I live in, you are unable to divorce if the wife is pregnant, regardless of who the father is. The husband is the legal father. Period. DNA makes zero difference and the husband can actually have to pay child support on another man's child. How do I know? My bro set precedent when his girlfriend and her husband divorced. They were separated long before bro met her, but they got preg. Then they learned that her husband was going to be the LEGAL father of my niece. The divorce was the first to occur with a pregnant woman and ONLY happened because bro took ALL responsibility for the child in court. My folks paid for a good atty to help them because the first husband made it clear that he was going to be a real PITA if he was the legal father of the child. Knowing exsil the way I already knew her then, I had a BAD feeling about it all, but I kept my mouth shut. We have wondered about the DNA, but it really doesn't matter at this point - she is my niece, period. Your son could end up in this situation. He might end up with their child being his legal responsibility. He could either let them control him via support demands, or do what exsil's first h threatened and make their life a total misery demanding all sorts of things for 'his' child. Your son needs to get an attorney and figure out what his rights are and how/when to have paternity tested and how to either get off the hook for the new child or figure out how to use that to get what he wants for his own child. I know your son is upsetting you and you really cannot help him with all of this, but you can pass the info along when the timing seems right to you. I do NOT want to upset you with all of this, but until my bro ended up with a married girlfriend who was preg with his child and possibly he could have ended up with another man being the legal father of his child, I didn't even know smethng that strange COULD happen. It has been several years since bro was in that situation, but there are still not many other cases where the courts allowed a divorce if the female was pregnant. Without the father of the baby going to court and taking ALL responsibilities for the child, the divorce has to wait until after the child is born. That way there are 2 adults legally responsible for the child - and the state can go after them if the child needs support. I hope your son can stop catastrophizing and come up with a plan. Even if the house has to wait or he has to move, the child needs to come first. [/QUOTE]
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