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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 226548" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Wakeupcall, my son is also adopted. Was your son exposed to substances in utero? If so, he could have fetal alcohol syndrome or have a very high chance of being on the autism spectrum. Drug use while pregnant causes a much higher rate of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). I adopted four kids. The only one who never even talked about his adoption was my Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son, however he does know what it means. And he knows there is no Santa (but not until I told him at age 11!!!!). Still, he believed me. Please make sure you do see a neuropsychologist, and make sure you bring as much info about his pre-birth and birthfamily as you know. Frankly, my son is 15 and I think he was ahead of yours developmentally (emotionally) BUT he is still far behind his peers, and he may be naive all his life. We waver between thinking "He's GOT it, he'll be able to be independent" to "He's going to need a little help even as an adult." I suspect he'll need a shared apartment/assisted living as, although he has come really far, he still have some life skill/social skill deficits that he can't help. They are not being "bad." They are that he is wired differently from other people. </p><p>We had a state adoption worker stay with us one night as she brought a boy we were thinking of adopting. She told us that almost all adopted kids are labeled ADHD. She said "If we don't give them any label at all, they know we're lying. But if we give them a scary label, the kids won't get adopted." So they aren't always truthful with us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 226548, member: 1550"] Wakeupcall, my son is also adopted. Was your son exposed to substances in utero? If so, he could have fetal alcohol syndrome or have a very high chance of being on the autism spectrum. Drug use while pregnant causes a much higher rate of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). I adopted four kids. The only one who never even talked about his adoption was my Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son, however he does know what it means. And he knows there is no Santa (but not until I told him at age 11!!!!). Still, he believed me. Please make sure you do see a neuropsychologist, and make sure you bring as much info about his pre-birth and birthfamily as you know. Frankly, my son is 15 and I think he was ahead of yours developmentally (emotionally) BUT he is still far behind his peers, and he may be naive all his life. We waver between thinking "He's GOT it, he'll be able to be independent" to "He's going to need a little help even as an adult." I suspect he'll need a shared apartment/assisted living as, although he has come really far, he still have some life skill/social skill deficits that he can't help. They are not being "bad." They are that he is wired differently from other people. We had a state adoption worker stay with us one night as she brought a boy we were thinking of adopting. She told us that almost all adopted kids are labeled ADHD. She said "If we don't give them any label at all, they know we're lying. But if we give them a scary label, the kids won't get adopted." So they aren't always truthful with us. [/QUOTE]
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