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Sorry but need to vent a bit...this is my other difficult child
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 499783" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>We've had the throat clearing tic from both boys. It was a bit different in difficult child 1, he didn't start it until after he began his volunteer work at the zoo (aged about 18). He was trying to imitate the call of a male emu, and then couldn't stop. It sounds like a cross between throat clearing and a gulp. At least it was quiet!</p><p></p><p>Your son should not have hit the teacher, but he was acting on impulse and out of fear and frustration. If someone had asked him "why?" as you did, then maybe it wouldn't have escalated so fast. He perhaps needs a safe place to go, to get away from an escalating situation. Suspension is not appropriate in these cases. The schools forget what the purpose is for suspension - it is designed to punish the kid, to help them learn what is NOT appropriate. But in kids like this, nothing gets learned with suspension, unless it is to continue to behave badly as a way of (one way or another) getting out of a stressful place. Our kids need to learn appropriate ways to cope, and we lose vital opportunities to teach this. And if a little time and compassion is used, the lesson is learned far faster that way, than by a knee-jerk suspension reaction.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 499783, member: 1991"] We've had the throat clearing tic from both boys. It was a bit different in difficult child 1, he didn't start it until after he began his volunteer work at the zoo (aged about 18). He was trying to imitate the call of a male emu, and then couldn't stop. It sounds like a cross between throat clearing and a gulp. At least it was quiet! Your son should not have hit the teacher, but he was acting on impulse and out of fear and frustration. If someone had asked him "why?" as you did, then maybe it wouldn't have escalated so fast. He perhaps needs a safe place to go, to get away from an escalating situation. Suspension is not appropriate in these cases. The schools forget what the purpose is for suspension - it is designed to punish the kid, to help them learn what is NOT appropriate. But in kids like this, nothing gets learned with suspension, unless it is to continue to behave badly as a way of (one way or another) getting out of a stressful place. Our kids need to learn appropriate ways to cope, and we lose vital opportunities to teach this. And if a little time and compassion is used, the lesson is learned far faster that way, than by a knee-jerk suspension reaction. Marg [/QUOTE]
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