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<blockquote data-quote="aeroeng" data-source="post: 440254" data-attributes="member: 6557"><p>When I was pregnant with my first son, I asked the question to spank or not to spank? I asked many individuals how were they disciplined and what would they recommend. Most recommended how they were raised whether it included spanking or not. I also found out that it did not seem to make a significant difference. Most kids came out well adjusted and responsible adults regardless of whether they were spanked or not. Kids that were never disciplined were miserable kids to be around but most grew up well. The most enjoyable adults (the ones that think about other people's feelings before saying or doing something) seemed to be disciplined not with spanking but with guilt. The individuals who had been spanked the most (and some to a beating level) seemed to have the most interesting stories about things they did as kids. (set the barn on fire, got the neighbors in a mob frenzy ect.) I'm not sure if they needed the spankings the most or if because of the level of spankings regularly received they did not care anymore. Regardless they too became stable contributing adults and felt their parents did a good job of raising them. </p><p></p><p>What seemed to make the biggest difference is whether or not they received attention from an adult. Kids on these pages don't fall in to the same place that most kids fall. When mental health is involved the game is different. Too many times the child's behavior is blamed on the parent, when in reality it is due to the mental health of the child. And it would not have made a single bit of difference whether the parent used spanking or not.</p><p></p><p>For us, we tried spanking and it never seemed to make any difference. It just did not hurt enough to change the behavior. When they were small timeouts worked much better. When they were older, learning how not to over react, reflecting and the types of skills taught by Dr. Green worked the best for us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="aeroeng, post: 440254, member: 6557"] When I was pregnant with my first son, I asked the question to spank or not to spank? I asked many individuals how were they disciplined and what would they recommend. Most recommended how they were raised whether it included spanking or not. I also found out that it did not seem to make a significant difference. Most kids came out well adjusted and responsible adults regardless of whether they were spanked or not. Kids that were never disciplined were miserable kids to be around but most grew up well. The most enjoyable adults (the ones that think about other people's feelings before saying or doing something) seemed to be disciplined not with spanking but with guilt. The individuals who had been spanked the most (and some to a beating level) seemed to have the most interesting stories about things they did as kids. (set the barn on fire, got the neighbors in a mob frenzy ect.) I'm not sure if they needed the spankings the most or if because of the level of spankings regularly received they did not care anymore. Regardless they too became stable contributing adults and felt their parents did a good job of raising them. What seemed to make the biggest difference is whether or not they received attention from an adult. Kids on these pages don't fall in to the same place that most kids fall. When mental health is involved the game is different. Too many times the child's behavior is blamed on the parent, when in reality it is due to the mental health of the child. And it would not have made a single bit of difference whether the parent used spanking or not. For us, we tried spanking and it never seemed to make any difference. It just did not hurt enough to change the behavior. When they were small timeouts worked much better. When they were older, learning how not to over react, reflecting and the types of skills taught by Dr. Green worked the best for us. [/QUOTE]
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