Stabbed Himself in the leg with-a Pencil!!??

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by 4timmy, Jan 7, 2009.

  1. 4timmy

    4timmy New Member

    I got a call from the principal today. (This is only day 3 of the first week back to school by the way.) difficult child stabbed himself in the leg with a pencil because he wasn't picked to present something in class. :confused:

    My husband picked him up from school. He says it's not too bad, but we have to keep a bandage on it. Brand new pants ruined too (I know I shouldn't care about the pants but I can't help it)

    Anyone else have issues with difficult child seriously hurting themselves over what would seem to be something trivial?
  2. Marguerite

    Marguerite Active Member

    Patch the pants. The hole shouldn't be too big, maybe a darn would do it. The blood will wash out if you soak it in cold water, then cold wash only. A splash of vinegar in the water might help.

    The self-injury thing can be a way to distract from the emotion (to avoid himself reacting inappropriately by crying or screaming) or it can be a way of producing a phsyical injury to match the emotional pain.

    Get him to a counsellor, he needs to find more appropriate ways to express his pain. Beter still, find a more appropriate way to manage his emotional pain.

    Otherwise - don't let it upset you.

    if you need tips on patching or darning invisibly, let me know. been there done that.

  3. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    Yep, my son used to bite himself, or bang his head if he did something or had something happen that he was mad at himself over. As recent as a year ago, at 17, he would still sometimes bite his arm when frustrated.

    You are not alone.

    Has a mood disorder been considered by the psychiatrist?

  4. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    So sorry he wasn't picked and that he was upset.
    He is learning ... the hard way.
    I would repair the pants and not say much about it. I've seen "regular" kids do stuff like that, and it ends up being a bigger deal--slamming hand on the desk, and breaking a wrist, by accident ... maybe he does that sort of thing instead of yelling, "Aarrrgggh!"
    I hope the principal didn't make too big a deal out of it. (Even though at that moment, it WAS a big deal to your son.)
    by the way, pencils no longer are made from lead. They are graphite.
  5. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    My difficult child usually lashes out at others and not himself but wanted to send some supportive hugs your way.
  6. house of cards

    house of cards New Member

    Your post was a sad reminder that as hard as it is to parent our difficult children, it can be so much harder on them, I've described mine at times as "tortured from within". Hopefully it was a momentary thing but such a level of pain. Hugs to you both.
  7. 4timmy

    4timmy New Member

    Thanks for the support and kind words from all.

    The pants are fine... just a couple of very small holes. There were 3 punctures that were pretty deep. He cried and screamed too.

    He said they were picking examples of students for the honor roll (??) Anyways, I explained it really wasn't worth getting that upset over. I told him I already know how smart he is and he said "I am smart!" (Bless his heart)

    psychiatrist has him on Zyprexa for mood, but we give that at night before bed, and that just doesn't make much sense to me..... She switched to Zyprexa from Risperdal. We see a counselor every other week. I usually email him an update prior to our appointment.

    Would the school want to kick him out for harming himself?? Teachers tend to freak out over this behavior. The principal too.
  8. bran155

    bran155 Guest

    "I am smart" HOW CUTE!!! :)
  9. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    I love it when they say stuff like that.

    I would hope the school wouldn't kick him out for that. Our school wouldn't. Unless it became a habit, too distressing and distracting for the other kids and for the difficult child.