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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 89318" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>Oh Karen, just loads and loads of hugs. I am sorry you are grieving. It is painful. All aspects of it. </p><p> :sad: </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p> <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I'm always afraid that I'm going to start thinking maybe what he did wasn't so bad and it would just be easier to try and work things out and stay together then to go through everything I know is ahead of me. I think that is why I may have stayed in the marriage for so long, when thinking back, I have been unhappy for so long. It was easier just to live that way and sacrifice my happiness then to go through what is ahead of me now. </div></div> </p><p></p><p>It is my very humble and probably nieve (sp?) opinion that if it was there at one time, it can be there again. Just because you both did not deal with your marital problems as they arose, does not mean they can not be dealt with now. </p><p>I completely understand if you could never forgive him for cheating. Some people can, some can not. I am not sure what I would do. But, you must realize that this 27 year relationship is very valuable and precious. Just because it was not maintained properly does not mean it is completely broken. You have been unhappy for so long - because you did not change it then by working. Because it was easier to do nothing. </p><p></p><p>I am not trying to change your mind - just like you said above, want you to hear all aspects.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 89318, member: 391"] Oh Karen, just loads and loads of hugs. I am sorry you are grieving. It is painful. All aspects of it. [img]:sad:[/img] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I'm always afraid that I'm going to start thinking maybe what he did wasn't so bad and it would just be easier to try and work things out and stay together then to go through everything I know is ahead of me. I think that is why I may have stayed in the marriage for so long, when thinking back, I have been unhappy for so long. It was easier just to live that way and sacrifice my happiness then to go through what is ahead of me now. </div></div> It is my very humble and probably nieve (sp?) opinion that if it was there at one time, it can be there again. Just because you both did not deal with your marital problems as they arose, does not mean they can not be dealt with now. I completely understand if you could never forgive him for cheating. Some people can, some can not. I am not sure what I would do. But, you must realize that this 27 year relationship is very valuable and precious. Just because it was not maintained properly does not mean it is completely broken. You have been unhappy for so long - because you did not change it then by working. Because it was easier to do nothing. I am not trying to change your mind - just like you said above, want you to hear all aspects. [/QUOTE]
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