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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 619406" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome hoper, I am so sorry you find yourself here. Your story is familiar in these parts and without question you made the difficult but right choice. You cannot condone or in any way allow stealing and disrespect in your own home. There may be reasons your daughter is the way she is because of her early years, but there comes a time for our parenting to come to an end and for our adult children to take responsibility for their own actions and face the consequences. </p><p></p><p>You've made a strong statement and set a clear boundary. Stay the course. Often our kids respond dramatically when the gravy train comes to a complete halt. Be prepared if she loses her cushy place at her boyfriends family's home to try to manipulate you back into her drama. Don't buy it. Remain steadfast in your conviction, you are right.</p><p></p><p>Now that you've taken this important step, you have to now turn your attention to yourself and the rest of your family. There is a good article at the bottom of my post here on detachment, it may be helpful to you. Often those of us here find counseling of some kind a great support through this new maze we are in. Detachment from our kids can be devastating for us parents and often we need lots of support, guidance, tools and understanding to stay the course. Find yourself as much help as you can. Nurture yourself, do kind things for yourself, you've been doing battle with the forces for a long time and you will need to learn to rest and find your joy once again. This road is depleting and exhausting and robs us of our peace of mind and of our happiness. You will need to work at getting that back now. You will likely need a lot of support to do it. Give that to yourself, you deserve it.</p><p></p><p>We are all here for you. Keep posting, it really helps. You are not alone, we have all been where you are now.............hang in there hoper..........wishing you peace.......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 619406, member: 13542"] Welcome hoper, I am so sorry you find yourself here. Your story is familiar in these parts and without question you made the difficult but right choice. You cannot condone or in any way allow stealing and disrespect in your own home. There may be reasons your daughter is the way she is because of her early years, but there comes a time for our parenting to come to an end and for our adult children to take responsibility for their own actions and face the consequences. You've made a strong statement and set a clear boundary. Stay the course. Often our kids respond dramatically when the gravy train comes to a complete halt. Be prepared if she loses her cushy place at her boyfriends family's home to try to manipulate you back into her drama. Don't buy it. Remain steadfast in your conviction, you are right. Now that you've taken this important step, you have to now turn your attention to yourself and the rest of your family. There is a good article at the bottom of my post here on detachment, it may be helpful to you. Often those of us here find counseling of some kind a great support through this new maze we are in. Detachment from our kids can be devastating for us parents and often we need lots of support, guidance, tools and understanding to stay the course. Find yourself as much help as you can. Nurture yourself, do kind things for yourself, you've been doing battle with the forces for a long time and you will need to learn to rest and find your joy once again. This road is depleting and exhausting and robs us of our peace of mind and of our happiness. You will need to work at getting that back now. You will likely need a lot of support to do it. Give that to yourself, you deserve it. We are all here for you. Keep posting, it really helps. You are not alone, we have all been where you are now.............hang in there hoper..........wishing you peace....... [/QUOTE]
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