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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 358590" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>klmno - I don't think it's a matter of judging you at all. We have the luxury of being objective observers without the emotional attachment to the situation. </p><p></p><p>I have to agree that it's time to jump thru their hoops. Until you do, you will be the problem (in the court's eyes) and I don't see there being a chance of difficult child getting services that he needs because you're the one (again, in the court's eyes) being noncompliant and uncooperative. We all know the drill - much easier to blame the parent until there's objective evidence that it's *not* the parent.</p><p></p><p>We've all had to jump thru hoops at one point or another, or at many points. Parenting classes, therapists who "knew best" who really didn't have a clue, teachers who could handle our kids by doing XYZ in spite of us knowing that XYZ doesn't/hasn't/never will work. Sometimes you have to sit back, do what is asked of you, and have faith that you really do know what you're doing and eventually the people in charge will clue in to that. Yes, it's a huge leap of faith but... obviously, the people who are dealing with- difficult child right now are not going to take your word nor the information from his prior evaluation. </p><p></p><p>If you choose not to do what the court is asking of you, I think you are guaranteeing that no one will have the opportunity to really get what is going on with difficult child because it will be laid solely at your feet and they will look no further.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 358590, member: 8"] klmno - I don't think it's a matter of judging you at all. We have the luxury of being objective observers without the emotional attachment to the situation. I have to agree that it's time to jump thru their hoops. Until you do, you will be the problem (in the court's eyes) and I don't see there being a chance of difficult child getting services that he needs because you're the one (again, in the court's eyes) being noncompliant and uncooperative. We all know the drill - much easier to blame the parent until there's objective evidence that it's *not* the parent. We've all had to jump thru hoops at one point or another, or at many points. Parenting classes, therapists who "knew best" who really didn't have a clue, teachers who could handle our kids by doing XYZ in spite of us knowing that XYZ doesn't/hasn't/never will work. Sometimes you have to sit back, do what is asked of you, and have faith that you really do know what you're doing and eventually the people in charge will clue in to that. Yes, it's a huge leap of faith but... obviously, the people who are dealing with- difficult child right now are not going to take your word nor the information from his prior evaluation. If you choose not to do what the court is asking of you, I think you are guaranteeing that no one will have the opportunity to really get what is going on with difficult child because it will be laid solely at your feet and they will look no further. [/QUOTE]
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