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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 359009" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I do see what you are saying, too. But I was under the impression that this was not a standing court order that had been in effect for a year. The MST guy last year (who is the liason that sets the evaluation up) had told me it had to be done before difficult child's court last year or else it was a done deal. I did not go and the GAL sauid she filed a show-cause on me. But, when we were at court last year and the GAL and the other attny's had planned already to used the evaluation outcome to order me to therapy and send difficult child hhome with NO punishment for pulling the knife on me but they could not because they had no evaluation results, the judge then said she had no paperwork on a show cause and said she was not going to turn difficult child over to dss and sent him to Department of Juvenile Justice. I do think it would have sent a horrible message to difficult child to not punish him but send him home with me ordered to therapy. Anyway, I called over to the clerk's office a few weeks later to find out what happened with it and she said she had not seen any paperwork on it and that it was probably a forgotten issue because difficult child was turned over to Department of Juvenile Justice and technically no longer in my custody. Even at court last week there apparently were no show cause papers in the file. It wasn't a situation where I could have called up any time this past year and arranged the evaluation to be done. I don't think this resurfaced because the judge just ran across this old order. Either the def attny or someone else has brought it up- but that doesn't really matter. I'm going to try to talk to someone tomorrow and find out if the evaluator really might do a clinical assessment or something along with the written test. All data I have read and my therapist has said that is critical for getting accurate results so I'm not so sure that MST guy ddidn't mislead me last year- it wouldn't be the first time he had. I am not as emphatic about this as I was before difficult child's court last year because he did serve time and get punished for the knife incident. Still, they are obviously already so convinced that something must be wrong with me that's causing this in difficult child they had already planned an outcome. Clealry, that is biased and the evaluation is only to give them appropriate written backing. When/if a show cause is filed, I can ask for an attny. I'm not positive how I will proceed yet. Frankly, I don't think difficult child can be helped appropriately until he is living with someone the system is backing up. The past 3 years, every time difficult child gets into trouble I have been looked at in one way or another- dss mostly because the GAL asked for them to do a family assessment. DSS has reported back to court that they see nothing wrong or any reason to remove difficult child from home and that I was doing everything I could for him and more than the county or state could do for him. Still, when it got to the point that they were going to let difficult child go scot free but order me to treatment after he pulled a knife on me- that tells me that their minds are made up already. And I ssay "they" but it really is most people assuming one person is correct rather than being objective and looking into it themselves. The judge last year had already heard about my previous therapy and so forth and I think that's why she didn't push this order or issue and did punish difficult child. No one in the courtroom now (except for me) was in the courtroom before when I testified to all that so they don't know.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 359009, member: 3699"] I do see what you are saying, too. But I was under the impression that this was not a standing court order that had been in effect for a year. The MST guy last year (who is the liason that sets the evaluation up) had told me it had to be done before difficult child's court last year or else it was a done deal. I did not go and the GAL sauid she filed a show-cause on me. But, when we were at court last year and the GAL and the other attny's had planned already to used the evaluation outcome to order me to therapy and send difficult child hhome with NO punishment for pulling the knife on me but they could not because they had no evaluation results, the judge then said she had no paperwork on a show cause and said she was not going to turn difficult child over to dss and sent him to Department of Juvenile Justice. I do think it would have sent a horrible message to difficult child to not punish him but send him home with me ordered to therapy. Anyway, I called over to the clerk's office a few weeks later to find out what happened with it and she said she had not seen any paperwork on it and that it was probably a forgotten issue because difficult child was turned over to Department of Juvenile Justice and technically no longer in my custody. Even at court last week there apparently were no show cause papers in the file. It wasn't a situation where I could have called up any time this past year and arranged the evaluation to be done. I don't think this resurfaced because the judge just ran across this old order. Either the def attny or someone else has brought it up- but that doesn't really matter. I'm going to try to talk to someone tomorrow and find out if the evaluator really might do a clinical assessment or something along with the written test. All data I have read and my therapist has said that is critical for getting accurate results so I'm not so sure that MST guy ddidn't mislead me last year- it wouldn't be the first time he had. I am not as emphatic about this as I was before difficult child's court last year because he did serve time and get punished for the knife incident. Still, they are obviously already so convinced that something must be wrong with me that's causing this in difficult child they had already planned an outcome. Clealry, that is biased and the evaluation is only to give them appropriate written backing. When/if a show cause is filed, I can ask for an attny. I'm not positive how I will proceed yet. Frankly, I don't think difficult child can be helped appropriately until he is living with someone the system is backing up. The past 3 years, every time difficult child gets into trouble I have been looked at in one way or another- dss mostly because the GAL asked for them to do a family assessment. DSS has reported back to court that they see nothing wrong or any reason to remove difficult child from home and that I was doing everything I could for him and more than the county or state could do for him. Still, when it got to the point that they were going to let difficult child go scot free but order me to treatment after he pulled a knife on me- that tells me that their minds are made up already. And I ssay "they" but it really is most people assuming one person is correct rather than being objective and looking into it themselves. The judge last year had already heard about my previous therapy and so forth and I think that's why she didn't push this order or issue and did punish difficult child. No one in the courtroom now (except for me) was in the courtroom before when I testified to all that so they don't know. [/QUOTE]
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