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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 350725" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Of course stepdaughter would decline - her mother was on the scene and to stepdaughter, you were asking her to choose (in front of her mother?) and she couldn't show disloyalty to her mother.</p><p></p><p>Go shopping on your own and feel good, knowing you held out the olive branch and also knowing that it was SD's choice to reject it, so you don't have to feel guilty for enjoying some peace and quiet.</p><p></p><p>One thing concerns me - you went out to support your husband, to tell his ex-wife to leave. It really was HIS problem, it became yours because it was happening on your property, but neither of them would have seen it that way. YOU supported HIM, in a conflict with his former life. But for him, when his former life intrudes on your life with him, he snaps back to supporting his former life AGAINST you.</p><p></p><p>You need to stop doing this, you're making yourself into a doormat and I don't think he either 'got it' or appreciated your support.</p><p></p><p>Not tat you did a wrong thing; just that in the whole context of how he is behaving, I think you should have let that fight play out. Let the neighbours call the cops. Let him explain to the cops. And best of all, let him feel the full brunt of exactly why he divorced her...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 350725, member: 1991"] Of course stepdaughter would decline - her mother was on the scene and to stepdaughter, you were asking her to choose (in front of her mother?) and she couldn't show disloyalty to her mother. Go shopping on your own and feel good, knowing you held out the olive branch and also knowing that it was SD's choice to reject it, so you don't have to feel guilty for enjoying some peace and quiet. One thing concerns me - you went out to support your husband, to tell his ex-wife to leave. It really was HIS problem, it became yours because it was happening on your property, but neither of them would have seen it that way. YOU supported HIM, in a conflict with his former life. But for him, when his former life intrudes on your life with him, he snaps back to supporting his former life AGAINST you. You need to stop doing this, you're making yourself into a doormat and I don't think he either 'got it' or appreciated your support. Not tat you did a wrong thing; just that in the whole context of how he is behaving, I think you should have let that fight play out. Let the neighbours call the cops. Let him explain to the cops. And best of all, let him feel the full brunt of exactly why he divorced her... Marg [/QUOTE]
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